WHEN YOU LOSE YOUR JOB….

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While some people see a job loss as a challenge that opens new opportunities, most associate job loss with strong, negative emotions. It is important to know that it is natural to have some negative feelings (especially as first) after a job loss and that most people experience them. Here are some feelings and experiences that you may have after losing a job:

·  Loss of professional identity: Professionals identify strongly with their careers. Unemployment can often lead to a loss of self-esteem. Being employed brings respect in the community and in the family. When a job is lost, part of your sense of self may be lost as well.

·  Loss of a network: The loss may be worse when your social life has been strongly linked to the job. Many ongoing work friendships are suddenly halted. Old friends and colleagues often don’t call because they feel awkward or don’t know what to say. Many don’t want to be reminded of what could happen to them. Also, when work and social activities mix, the job loss can be hard for all family members who participated in such activities.

·  Emotionally unprepared: Thos who have never been unemployed may not be emotionally prepared for a job loss and may be devastated when it happens. It is natural and appropriate to feel this way. You might notice that some people you know don’t take their job loss as hard as you have taken it. They might be more prepared for this time of uncertainty. Studies show that those who change jobs frequently or who are in occupations prone to cyclic unemployment, suffer far less emotional impact after job loss than those who have been steadily employed and who are unprepared for cutbacks.

Coping with Stress: Stress is simply a natural reaction of the body to any demand placed on it. New jobs, buying a new house and having a baby are all stressful events but most people look forward to them. Losing a job, death of a loved one or having an accident is stressful too. The following tips can help you deal with the demands on your busy lifestyle and still keep your health (and sanity!):

·  Make a list so you won’t get overwhelmed trying to remember everything.

·  Reach out for help when you need it.

·  Get enough sleep, exercise and eat right.

·  Laugh. Laughter increases the pain threshold, boosts immunity and relieves stress!

·  Talk it out. Sometimes just talking with a friend makes a problem seem a little less.

·  Learn to set limits and priorities. You can’t handle everything. Learn to say no.

·  Make time to relax and have fun. You need to recharge.

Reference: Job Search Guide: Strategies for Professionals – U.S. Dept. of Labor