Top 20 Training (Tom Cody & Kevin Brennan)
Session #1 Roadblock to Success: I AM STUPID!
A. Equal Sign lets ‘Stupid’ out of the box
B. Reactions to Feeling Stupid:
1. Withdraw: quit + quiet
2. Pretend
3. Emotional: embarrassed, angry, upset, sad, worry, nervous, stress
4. Judgments: I’m not good enough; I don’t know anything; I’m bad at
everything; I am stupid.
5. Attack: argue, swear, challenge, bully
6. Defensive: judge (“This is stupid…you’re stupid.”)
7. Motivate
8. Numb: being numb is better than dumb
C. 5 Causes of Stupid
1. Called: stupid, dumb, idiot; laughed at; non-verbals
- “When I say something and others say it’s stupid or someone says something and I don’t know what they mean and they call me stupid…I get mad.”
- “Every night my dad tells me I’m stupid…I wish I could leave.”
2. Comparison: others are better; I’m not good enough
- “When I am taking tests and am one of the last people taking the test…I rush through it and don’t read the questions or answers.”
- “When some of my friends brag about their grades…I tell them my grades are good then think to myself, ‘Oh, I’m stupid.’”
3. Confusion: I don’t know; I don’t get it
- “When guys are talking about stats and football and I have no idea what they’re talking about… I usually just don’t talk or I pretend I know what they are talking about.”
- “In school when I don’t know the answer…Pretend, blush, don’t raise my hand as much.”
4. Can’t: failure, mistakes
- “When I strike out in a baseball game…I feel that I’m not good at baseball and I’ll probably strike out again.”
5. Certain situations: class, activity, needing help
D. Teacher Tips for Keeping Stupid in the Box:
- Initiate professional conversations among faculty to (a) become aware of stupid and (b) consider ways to reduce student experiences of stupid.
2. Make stupid part of the curriculum: A. Share personal experiences of feeling stupid. B. Teach the 5 causes of stupid.
C. Explain how ‘comparison’ can lead to learning. D. Explain the importance of ‘confusion’ in learning.
E. Stress the value of failure and mistakes to learning and growing.
- Be aware of when stupid might appear: A. Have a large EQUAL SIGN in your room and refer to it
when and where someone might be feeling stupid.
B. Every few weeks ask students if they have felt stupid.
C. Ask students if they have felt stupid
- Empower students with the UNEQUAL SIGN.
5. Help students discover how they are smart.
6. Practice the script:
“I am smart. I just don’t understand ______yet.”
“I am smart. I’m just confused about ______.”
“I am smart. I just can’t ______.”
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Session #2 : CREATING A TOP 20 CULTURE
Job #1: Help Others Succeed
How could I help others succeed in ways that I am not currently doing?
Communicate ‘You Matter’
1. Seek the other’s benefit.
2. Listen to understand.
3. Value differences.
How do I specifically communicate “You matter”?
How do I communicate “You don’t matter”?
Honor the Absent
Honor the Absent: Speak well of those who are not present.
Dishonor the Absent: Speak negatively of those who are not present.
1. Thin Ice!
2. Problem Naming or Problem Solving.
3. Keeping My Lake Clean:
A. How do I communicate “Dump Here?”
B. How do I or could I communicate “No Dumping Here?”
4. Name is Sacred
5. Practice the 2-out-of-3 Rule:Say someone’s name.
Say something negative.
Say it to someone else.
See the Problem, Own the Problem
Assessing Our Culture:
8-10Significantly present in our culture
6-7Often present in our culture
4-5Seldom present in our culture
1-3Significantly absent in our culture
_____Job #1: Help Others Succeed
_____Communicate ‘You Matter’
_____Honor the Absent
_____See the Problem, Own the Problem
_____ Total
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Session #3 : THE FRAME: What We See Is What We Get
The Frame:How we SEE something influences how we FEEL.
How we FEEL influences what we DO.
What we DO influences what we GET.
What we GET reinforces how we SEE.
1. When what we are feeling is real, we think that what we are seeing is ______.
2. When not getting what we want to be getting:
Bottom 80s:Top 20s:
1. Change nothing.Get Curious: Change how we see it.
2. Change what we do.
3. Blame: Gets activated by our
need to be right.
3. How do we operate when we are: RightCurious
4. Three Types of Rights:
Bottom 80:R = R When I think I am right, I am RIGHT.
Top 20:R = W When I think I am right, I am WRONG.
I just don’t know what I’m wrong about YET.
Top 20:R = R When I think I am right, I am RIGHT (correct)
but not complete. There is more that I don’t see.
5. Four Ways to See More or Differently:
A. Create a crisis.
B. Ask someone else how he/she sees it.
C. Change roles.
D. Say “Maybe.”
6. Two Paths:Top 20Bottom 80
We are blind.We are blind.
We know it.We don’t know it.
We are curious.We blame.
We are responsible.We are victim.
We maintain our power.We give up power.
We make a difference.We are stuck in yuck.
7. What’s a situation in which I am not getting what I want to be getting?
A. How do I see it?
B. What do I feel? Do I have a need to be right?
C. What am I doing? Am I blaming?
D. What am I getting?
Re-Frame: How might I see this differently?
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Session #4:
Relevancy (What’s in it for me?)
1. Content & Grades
What’s the impact of grades on your students?
2. Intellectual Muscle: Developing Problem-solving Potential
What activities do you offer in your class that build Intellectual Muscle for problem-solving in the future?
How do you ‘sell’ homework?
3. Star Qualities:
What is the IQ name of your class? ______
What is the EQ name of your class? ______
What Star Qualities do you want to develop in your students during their experience in your classroom?
Star Qualities
Internal Strengths:
Self-confidence: believing in my self and my abilities Risk-taking: taking the difficult road to expand my comfort zone Self-motivation: getting myself started Enthusiastic: having energy and interest for what I’m doing Reflective: truly looking at myself Reality based: dealing with what is in front of me Emotionally aware: in touch with how my feelings influence my actions Empowered: realizing that I’m in charge of my future Responsible: being dependable; someone others can count on Self-disciplined: taking control of myself
Flexibility: adapting to change and the stress created by it Toughness: dealing with adversity when things aren’t going my way Challenge: seeing problems as learning opportunities Courageous: responding in spite of fear or lack of confidence Commitment: valuing putting forth my full effort Optimistic: hopeful, valuing the positive
Social Qualities:
Fun: realizing that learning and working with others can be joyful Respectful: honoring others by my words and actions Acceptance: valuing diversity and people who are different than me Communication: willing to listen to others and share appropriately Honest: valuing living with truth and communicating truth Empathetic: understanding what others are going through Team player: helping; working well with others Open minded: accepting points of view different than my own Negotiate: using compromise and give-and-take in dealing with others Tact: expressing myself with concern for other’s feelings
Problem Solving Skills:
Time management: making good use of my time Proactive: seeing what needs to be done and doing it Focus: keeping my attention on the task or goal Persistent: sticking with the job until it is finished Patience: realizing that success often doesn’t come easily Organized: able to look ahead and keep my life in order Logical: solving life’s problems in a sensible, orderly manner Goal setting: planning to meet long and short-term needs
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Session #5:
Above and Below the Line: How Our Thinking Governs Our Experience
Above the Line
A positive view on life andPositive attitudes and beliefs
how we see the worldHopeful and optimistic
Energetic moods and emotionsPower to control my life
Focused on what is important
______
Below the Line
A negative view on life andNegative attitudes and beliefs
how we see the worldHopeless and pessimistic
Depressing moods and emotionsPowerless victim of life
Lose focus on what is important
1. Living or Visiting
2. Life Looks Different from Above or Below the Line
3. Making Decisions Below the Line Mess
4. Conditions Do Not Determine Experience: Keep Your Day
5. Invitations: conditions/situations that invite us to go BTL.
6. Indicators: feelings we have or behaviors we manifest when BTL.
7. Submarine: maintaining dignity during our BTL visits.
8. Trampolines: means by which we can think straight and bounce back ATL.
9. Outside/Inside:Bottom 80s wait for outside conditions to improve…then the inside experience gets better.
Top 20s improve the inside first…then the outside condition gets better.
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Session #6:
Learning from Mistakes: Moving Outside Our Comfort Zone
1. Mistake:
2. Responses from others when I have made a mistake:
3. Bottom 80 responses to mistakes: a. Deny/Hidec. Justify
b. Blamed. Dwell
Top 20 responses to mistakes: Own and Learn
4. Lesson:
5. (Comfort Zone) Mistakes Big Learning
Fear of Other Peoples’ OpinionsFear of Failure
6. ACT:Awareness of my belief about myself as a mistake maker.
Conscious Choice:
1. How do I want to respond when I make a mistake?
Script:
2. How do I want to respond to others when they make a mistake?
Script:
Talk about mistakes we make.
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Session #7: Implementation
The Top 20 curriculum can be presented in many ways.
- Daily class
- Weekly class
- Front loaded at the beginning of a semester - Grade level teachers
- During homeroom or advisory period
- Part of another class or classes
- After school program
- Summer session
- Incorporated into extracurricular activities
PODS: The Key to Top 20 Class Interaction
Purpose of Pods: To create a new type of classroom atmosphere by enhancing the group experience, having every student’s voice matter and developing a sense of belonging and connection.
Randomly assign students to a four-desk unit (Pod). Questions in class are then routinely directed to these Pods. Students follow a set of guidelines in responding:
1. Each student is assigned a letter (A, B, C, D) which corresponds to a task for that day:
A = Asker – the person who repeats the question for the Pod.
B = First – the person who responds (or passes) first.
C = Scribe – the person who writes down the responses; the note-taker.
D = Voice – the person who reports back to the large group using the Scribe’s
notes if necessary.
Note: Make a laminated sign of the letters and tasks. It’s handy if the letters are attached to the sign by velcro so they can be easily moved. Put the sign on a bulletin board in the front of the room.
2. The tasks rotate each day. The second day, A is the First to respond, B is the Scribe, C is the Voice and D is the Asker. Simply rearrange the letters to designate these changes.
3. The Pod members are changed every 6-7 class days ensuring that the students interact with a wider variety of people.
4. Pod rules include:
a. Everyone gets to answer every question.
b. Respect is shown to the speaker;
- No side conversations
- Face (shoulders towards) the person who is speaking
- Use good non-verbals
c. No inter-podding or talking to students in another Pod.
d. No Pod ripping.
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