The Unhealthy Relationship Quiz

The following behaviors are some warning signs that the relationship you’re in may not be healthy. You’re the best judge of the health of your relationship!If one or more of the listed behaviors are happening in your relationship and you’re feeling like your life is becoming smaller, more filled with fear, or less happy because of them, it might be time to reach out for help.

Does your boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, partner, boo, or date:

  • Always ask you who you’re talking to or getting texts from?
  • Force you to have sex when you don’t want to?
  • Need to be with you 24/7?
  • Regularly accuse you of cheating on them or flirting with other people?
  • Scare you in any way?
  • Threaten to out you as gay or HIV positive to others, including your family, if you don’t do what they want?
  • Restrict the people you talk to, hang out with, or talk about?
  • Threaten to out you to people, including family, friends, church, or job?
  • Tell you you’re not a real lesbian, gay man, trans person, etc. because you don’t have sex the way they want you to?
  • Become angry or suddenly “sick” when you are about to go somewhere or spend time with other people, messing up your plans and keeping you at home?
  • Keep you from going to sleep when you want and need to?
  • Get mad if you wear clothing they don’t approve of and force you to change?
  • Punch, slap, kick, or otherwise physically hurt you during arguments?
  • Say “If you really loved me, you would…” when they want you to do something you don’t want to do?
  • Have double standards about what you can do and what they can do?
  • Embarrass you in public?
  • Never take responsibility for their own feelings or bad things that happen to them?
  • Take your money or tell you what to spend it on?
  • Keep guns, knives or other weapons and threaten to hurt you or others with them?
  • Show up unexpectedly at your job or other places you’re hanging out?
  • Refuse to respect your chosen gender pronouns or name?
  • Read your email, Facebook, texts without your permission?
  • Say that they’ve done these things because they were drunk or high or because you made them do it?

From Showmelovedc.org, edited by Kerry Poynter