Visit Scenario #5 (The Visit from Hell)

C = Caregiver (Son in Law) Jerrod Pentup

M = Mother (Patient)Trudy Pentup

Diagnosis:

Scenario Purpose: Scenario under severe stress condition requiring a high degree of professional judgment.

Clean Behind the Scene

God Help Me/Tune-In

Driveway Manners

One Detail! (pick out a specific piece of information from the LAST person that visited to mention during your visit)

Vibrate On

Breath (Center Yourself)

“I Am a Teacher”

Everything I Need…

Entrance

C: Who the hell is it God Damit! (Stern and rough)

Project Warmth

Perceive

C: What the hell do you want? We don’t need your help.

Interaction

C: I know who you are. You come from your nice cushy home. But I know your kind! Do your thing here…but know I’ll be watching you…your every move.

C: And don’t fuck with me! I mean it!

C: I’ve had a bad day. A bad, bad day…

Bag Mat

One Detail!

Sanitize

Eye-Level, Lean-In

Biggest Concern

C: You could visit more often. After all, you are being paid enough. And I’ve read that many hospices don’t do very much for what they are paid.

Zen Presence

Validate & Match

Interaction

C: How do I know that you are a quality hospice program?

Presence

Validate

Interaction

C: I think that Mom could be made more comfortable.

Presence

(SPECIFIC SW QUESTION) SKIP FOR OTHER DISCIPLINES

C: Money. You got money! I’ve got an ex-wife that takes every damn dime I make. That’s like I’m living in this shit-hole with my Mom. It’s fucking hell.

Zen Presence

C: Mom’s fine. I’m not worried.

Validate & Match

C: You’re pretty. Do you have a man? A real man?

Manage Expectations

Introducing Mr. Gates - Computer Introduced

C: Beauty and brains. I like that…

C: (Long Sniff)…I like the way you smell…

Teach Rather Than Do

C: What are you going to do if I don’t do it?

Teach Back (#1)

C: Does that satisfy you?

Teach Back (#2)

C: Don’t tell me what to do, you bitch! I’ve seen your kind all my life! Do-gooders! But you don’t fool me…

Crystal Ball

Verify Visit Frequency

Tell Me How Grim It Is

French Fries

I’ve watched what you’re doing and you’re doing a great job. To make it even better do X and Y.

C: (No response)

You have everything you need…TEACHER: [most of the medications are gone]

C: Are you accusing me of something! You make one more accusation like that and bad things might happen…to you!

C: I’m not saying that I would do anything…but things do happen.

Number in View

Is there anything else I can help you with? TEACHER: Ask to Student to explain EMDR or anything on the Hospice Menu.

C: Nope. (soft) I didn’t mean to curse and approach you, but you know how it is… Mom dying and all… She’s all I really have…

Zen Presence

Validate & Match

Assure and Build Confidence

“This Survey Means a lot to Me…”

Express Gratitude for the Privilege to Serve!

C: Look at you! There’s that fucking do-gooder again!

Exit

C: One more question missy, (softly) what’s your cell number! I mean, Mom might need some help in the middle of the night…

C: Hell, I guess you can solve all of the world’s fucking problems can’t you!

C: Well I’ll look forward to seeing you again… I was only joking about things you know.

C: Chow…

I’ve Just Got to Get a Message to You…”

Sync Device

Let Go

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1611 Asheville Highway, Hendersonville, NC 28791

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