Marriage & Family Changes Lesson

Marriage & Family Changes Lesson

Marriage & Family Changes Lesson

What are your thoughts about engagements, weddings and marriage???

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Intimacy = Deep and meaningful kind of sharing between two people.

Love =Strong feeling of affection and liking for another / Behaviors showing a commitment / Expressions of one’s most thoughts and feelings

Intimacy - For marriage to sustain itself over the year’s four types of intimacy must be present:

  1. Philosophical – sharing beliefs & values ( particular important when raising kids)
  2. Psychological – sharing of needs, emotions, weaknesses and strengths, individual success, show support in disappointment
  3. Creative – sharing of efforts to accomplish task and projects, each partner must do his or her share of the work with a willing attitude
  4. Physical – wide range of behaviors that express warmth and closeness, physical affection, marriage partners should be physically attracted to one another

How to predict success in a marriage…

  1. Age
  2. Reasons for marriage
  3. Length of the relationship and engagement
  4. Similar attitudes about children & child-raising
  5. Similar interests
  6. Committed to sexual fidelity
  7. Good character
  8. Parents success at marriage
  9. Parental attitudes towards the potential marriage partner
  10. Careful selection of the marriage partner

THE THREE C’S = COMMUNICATION – COMMITMENT - COMPROMISE

Most important issues in marriage:Those issues discussed in pre-marital counseling…

  1. Sex
  2. religion

Marriage Commitment

  • Because of rising divorce rates, these should be present for marriage to last
  • Marriage partners must be committed to actions that honor wedding vows
  • MONOGOMY – being sexually intimate with one partner
  • The three C’s = COMMUNICATION, COMMITMENT, COMPROMISE

When Marriage Doesn’t Work Out

  1. Marital separation: The living apart of two marriage partners
  2. Divorce: Legal way to end a marriage; A judge or court decides the terms with respect to property, custody, support, and assets.
  3. Annulment: Legal way to end a marriage in which it was decided that a legally binding marriage actually was not (commonly through the church)
  4. Dissolution: Legal way to end a marriage in which the marriage partners decide the terms with respect to property, custody, support, and assets

Custody & Children

  1. Single custody: one partner keep legal custody of the child/children
  2. Custodial parent: Parent with whom child lives with
  3. Visitation rights: Guidelines set for the parent who does not have legal custody of child/children to visit the child/children (sometimes very specific time and locations)
  4. Joint custody: both parents keep legal custody of child/children; may live with one parent or alternative living arrangement; both parents maintain legal rights to make decisions about the health and well-being of the child

Remarriage

  • Blended Family/Stepfamily
  • Consists of marriage partners who one or both had children from previous marriage, could together have a child
  • sources of conflict could arise if rules are not set and consistent, children are not treated fairly in reference to allowance or finances

COMMUNICATION IS A KEY IN ALL RELATIONSHIPS AND MUST BE MAINTAINED EVEN IF FAMILY CHANGES DO OCCUR!!!

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What are YOU looking for in a partner?!

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