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Made For Coaches By Coaches

Group Coaching Session #: 23

CONCEPT: 11 Tips to Stick To A New Habit by MaryLou Dingman

Time Frame: 1 hour

LEARNING OBJECTIVES: This session offers practical, real life tips on how to with a new habit. Agents wlll initially be evaluating how important reaching that particular goal is, and then steps on how to stay on task to meet the goal. There is also time for pairs or small group discussions. By the end of the session, agents should have their clear goal in mind, and to also have a more clear path on how to reach that goal/create that habit.

STANDARDS: The expectation is that agents be willing to explore ways to build a habit, and to possibly explore ways to revisit a previously failed goal or habit. Be willing and open to share with others to further themselves and fellow agents.

MATERIALS: Notebook/computer, printed outline with all points that is given at the end of the session. Agents will be collaborating with one another in pairs or small groups.

STRATEGY: Tell clients that in this session, they'll be focusing on one habit they intend to form, or goal they choose to reach. They can even choose to form a habit or reach a goal they're previously not met. Throughout the coaching session, the habit/goal will be "flushed out" with a much more clear sense of what needs to happen to make it stick.

COACHING SEQUENCE:

ANTICIPATORY SET: –Ask, can you honestly look back so far on your life/career and say you’ve done everything up to this point to be successful? Why or why not? What is the ONE thing you’re not currently doing, that if you DID do it, would change the entire trajectory of your business/life? What do you feel has prevented you thus far from achieving your fullest potential?

HOOK: (Need to fill in here – what is a good video or fact that’s captivating?)

PROCEDURES TO FOLLOW:

These 11 points will be discussed:

1. First, make sure you actually *want* to develop this habit or accomplish this goal. So, do you still really want to become a morning person or does that secretly sound so awful? Do you actually want to give up coffee or do you just feel obligated to try again since you didn’t do it last year? Do you really WANT to door knock?

a. Every person writes down the habit or goal they intend to accomplish. GET REAL

b. Take 60 seconds to discuss the goal with one partner, describing why it's important to reach that goal. Each person takes 60 seconds, 2 minutes total.

2. Know that there’s no one-size-fit all for forming habits, and the important thing is finding out what works for you. Suggest Book: Gretchen Rubin, Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives

3. Think about a time when you WERE successful in creating a habit/reaching a goal and see what you can learn from that. Give everyone 2 minutes to write about that past experience, and then Break down into small groups (3-4) to share their experience (5 Minutes). What was their key to success? What kept them on track?

4. If you’ve tried and failed to make this a habit in the past, get to the root of the problem.

What REALLY created the obstacle?

Getting up early?

Fear of rejection?

Too much money?

Too much fear?

5. Be even more concrete than you think you need to be.

Take your original goal, and make sure it is as specific as it needs to be. "I plan on doing six Four Hour Open Houses each month. They will be On Saturdays and Sundays from 1-5pm."

Take 3 minutes and share with the person next to you. Make sure the goal is specific and measurable.

6. Make the habit as convenient as possible.

Break into groups of 3-4. Each person shares their habit/goal, and the entire group brainstorms ways to make it "easy" for that person to reach their goal. (For instance, if their goal is to wake up at 5:30 each morning,some strategies would be: Setting the coffemaker to autobrew for 5:20. Putting alarm clock across the room. Not using snooze button"

7. Pair the habit you’re trying to form with an activity you really like or have no trouble doing.

Brainstorm with the same group in the same way: Re: Waking up: "Buy some new tea flavors and only drink them when you wake up early. Burn a favorite candle in the morning. Each group member helps one another. Think outside the box!10 minutes

8. Think about what will probably get in your way ahead of time and come up with strategies for how you’ll handle that.

Individual exercise: 3 minutes

Share with a partner: 3-5 minutes

9. Try apps that provide guidance or accountability.

Brainstorm as the entire group: Ask for apps associated with: Health, Eating, Waking Up, Losing Weight, Cold Calling, Door Knocking, Open Houses, Networking

10. Get imaginative about what accountability means. What will happen if you don't create this habit or meet this goal?

Discuss with partner what accountability means, and how you choose to be held accountable. (3 minutes total)

11. And finally, don’t beat yourself up when you screw up — because you will.

Small groups: 5 minutes

Each group comes up with 2 BOLD Law/Affirmation/Quote to stay encouraged in the face of failure. Each team "captain" shares to the entire group.

Coach writes each on a whiteboard or makes note of them. Ask each agent to write them down.

TRANSITION: Take a few minutes and do a self evaluation. On a scale of 1-10, how confident are you that you’re equipped to form the habit/meet your goal?

EVALUATION OF LESSON: Ask for agents to share what they came up with. What aha moments did they have?