Explore Others’ Paths

  • How do you help others share what they’re really thinking?
  • What does it mean to “explore others’ paths”?
  • What is it you are trying to do when you use the power listening skills? (AMPP)?
  • When would you use the ABCs (Agree, Build and Compare)? How can they help the conversation?
  • How can you apply what you learned today?
  • Tell how using the “Text Codes” helped you as you were reading.

Learn to Look

  • What is the difference between content and context in a conversation?
  • How does understanding the difference between content and context help you while you are holding a crucial conversation?
  • Discuss silence and violence. How does this knowledge help you as you have a crucial conversation?
  • How can you use what you have learned to help others feel safe when having a tough conversation with you?
  • How can you apply what you learned today?
  • Tell how using the “Text Codes” helped you as you were reading.

Make It Safe

  • Why is Mutual Purpose the entry into a conversation? Why is Mutual Respect the continuance condition of dialogue?
  • What is Contrasting? How can it be used in a conversation?
  • What do mutual purpose and mutual respect have to do with safety?
  • When is apologizing appropriate? What role does it play in restoring safety?
  • How can you apply what you learned today?
  • Tell how using the “Text Codes” helped you as you were reading.

Master My Stories

  • What are Victim, Villain and Helpless Stories?
  • What role do stories play in the creation of our feelings and actions?
  • When we’re upset, why is it important to get back to the facts?
  • Why should we ask what role we may be playing in the problem?
  • Why should we start assuming that others are reasonable and rationale?
  • How can you apply what you learned today?
  • Tell how using the “Text Codes” helped you as you were reading.

Move to Action

  • Discuss the four different methods of decision making. When would you use the different methods in your school or district?
  • How can you ensure that something happens following a discussion?
  • What barriers get in the way of the processes outlined in the chapter? What can you do about them?
  • How can you use these processes within your classroom, school or district?
  • How can you apply what you learned today?
  • Tell how using the “Text Codes” helped you as you were reading.

State My Path

Share your facts.

Tell your story.

Ask for Others’ Paths

Talk Tentatively

Encourage testing

  • Discuss how each of these steps helps to create a way to share “risky” meaning.
  • How can you maintain safety when honesty could easily offend the other person?
  • How can you use stories effectively in this process:

Why don’t you start with your story?

Why share your story at all?

How should you share your story?

  • How can you change so that you can be effective?
  • How can you apply what you learned today?
  • Tell how using the “Text Codes” helped you as you were reading.