Engaging Gospel Doctrine (Episode 74)

Lesson 45

“The Family Is Ordained of God”

Hook / Nothing is more important in your life than your relationships. Are you making decisions accordingly?
Goal / Class members should better understand the principles of thriving relationships and ponder how to apply the principles of the Proclamation to the Family to their individual circumstances, personalities, and needs.
Overview / · Suggestions to teach or comment on this lesson: Express appreciation for the Proclamation, and then underscore our many different situations and experiences. Ask class members to share what has made their relationships successful, and if they want to, some of their challenges.
· Reflections: What is family? (talk about obligations we have to those are are related to, obligations so powerful gospel language reflects that pattern, but also the family that we choose in our lives. Also acknowledge the variety of families.
· Overview of reading
· Keys to a thriving marriage (also bring up sex)
· Good parenting
· Introduce the discussion (it will be a “two-tone” discussion, first modeling a conversation appropriate for classes and then model a “hall and home” class, very much worth listening to!
Conclusion / ·

Family is about love and covenants more than blood

https://www.facebook.com/Jared1260/posts/10101466160060308

Link to Ancestry.com and “Who do you think you are” as great examples. We can be inspired, enlivened, even transformed by stories of those whose DNA makes up our bodies, who live on in us.

Help meet (discuss) (Genesis 2:18)

Link

http://www.gottman.com/couples/

Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work:

1. Enhance your love maps (get to know your spouse. Sound silly and obvious? Get to know what they like, what their preferences are. Favorite authors and artists, etc. Make “cognitive room for your marriage”

2. Nurture your fondness and admiration

3. Turn toward each other instead of away

4. Let your partner influence you

5. Solve your solvable problems

6. Overcome gridlock

7. Create shared meaning

http://circleofsecurity.net/resources/handout/

Always be bigger, stronger, wiser, and kind. Whenever possible: follow your child’s need. Whenever necessary: take charge. (as opposed to being mean, weak, or absent)

http://circleofsecurity.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/COS_inrelationshiptoAdult.pdf

We are relational beings. Whether early in life or

in adulthood, coming to know

ourselves within the context of being known – genui

nely understood, honored, and cared

for – can make all the difference.

http://www.psychotherapy.net/interview/sue-johnson-interview

http://www.psychotherapy.net/article/couples-therapy-attachment

Or Barry McCarthy: http://www.psychologytoday.com/experts/barry-w-mccarthy-phd

http://www.dialoguejournal.com/wp-content/uploads/sbi/articles/Dialogue_V45N01_CO.pdf