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EQ udkt"dyÜm,fzGifhqdkcsufwpfckrSm“The capacity for recognizing our won feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves, for managing emotions well in ourselves, and in our relationship”,“rdrdESifh tjcm;olrsm;\ udk,fydkifcHpm;csufrsm;tm; oabmaygufem;vnfjyD; rdrdudk,fudk pdwfwufMuGatmif tm;ay;Edkifjcif;? rdrd\cHpm;csufrsm;tm; rdrdudk,fwGif;wGif pDrHcef hcGJjcif;? rdrd\ cHpm;csufrsm;tm; tjcm;olrsm;eSifh qufqHa&;wGif pDrHcef hcGJjcif;” jzpfonf/

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EQ \ vu©Pmwpf&yfrSm Self-awareness“rdrdbmjzpfaeonfudkodjcif;” jzpfonf/ wpfenf; “cHpm;csufwpfck ay:vmcsdefwGif od&Sdjcif;” jzpfonf/ rdrd0rf;enf;csdefwGif 0rf;enf;rSef;od&rnf? a'gojzpfcsdefwGifa'gojzpfrSef; od&rnf? pdwf"mwfusvQif usrSef;od&rnf/ udududk,fudkodjcif;onf \tajccHtusqkH; tpdwftydkif;jzpfonf/ a'go? avmb paomcHpm;csufwdk h\ oabmw&m;rSm owdrxm;rdvQif t&Sdefwufoxuf wufavh&Sd&m olwdk hudkowdxm;rdvdkufonfESifh t&Sdefwef hoGm;avh&Sdonf/

EQ ‘\ aemufxyf vu©Pmwpf&yfrSm ac: “ Self-regulation ac:pdwfcHpm;rIudk rdrdbmomxdef;ausmif;Edkif jcif;”jzpfonf/ cHpm;csuf\ appm;&mrcHbJ rdrduom cHpm;csufudk udkifwG,fEdkifjcif; “Handling your emotions rather than letting the emotions handle you” jzpfonf/ cHpm;csuf\ aus;uRefjzpf&mrS b0wGifrsm;pGm epfemcJh&olrsm;udk rdrdywf0ef;usifwGifyif 'kESifha'; awG hEdkifonf/ wpfcgESpfcg awG hzl;oludk tcspfxl;&mrS cdk;&mvdkufcJhcsdefwGif r,m;i,fb0okd h a&mufcJh&jcif;rsdK;? tacsmif&jyD[k avmbpdwfi,fxdyfwufaqmifh&mrS pnf;pdrfjyKwf tvdrfcH&jcif;rsdK;? &nf;pm;ysuf&mrS t&ufudktazmfjyK&if; b0qkH;&jcif;rsdK;wdk honfEQ jyóemrsm;yif jzpfonf/

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tjcm;olrsm;\ cHpm;csufudk cHpm;odEdkifjcif;? tjcm;olrsm;\ae&mrS 0ifcHpm;Ekdifjcif;onf EQ jrifhrm;olrsm;\ p&dkufvu©Pmyifjzpfonf/ xdktcsufrsm; aygif;pyfxm;aom Empathy onf EQ \ tpdwftydkif;wpfckyifjzpfonf/ tjcm;olrsm;\ &ifwGif;odk h0ifMunfhEkdifaom? cHpm;Edkifaomolonf tjcm;olrsm;ESifh xdxda&mufa&mufqufqHEdkifonf/ xdkolwdk h\vkdtifudk jznfhqnf;ay;Edkifonf/ “yg;pyf[wmudkMunhf&kHeJ h tlb,fESpfacG&Sdw,fudk odw,f” qdkonfrSm Empathy tm;aumif;olwdk hyifjzpf&mxdkolwdk honfvlwdk hhESifhqufqH&aomae&mrsm;wGif atmifjrifolrsm;jzpfonf/ vlESifhrqufqH&aomae&m r&Sdoavmufyifjzpf&m ae&mwdkif;wGifEmpathy jrifholwdk hatmifjrifayrnf/ tdrfaxmifa&;?rdom;pka&;? vlrIa&;? EdkifiHa&;? pD;yGm;a&; ae&mwdkif;wGifyif/

jcHKajym&vQif EQ onf Self-awareness udk,hfudk,fudk,fodjcif;?Self-regulation rdrdcHpm;csufudk yJhjyifEkdifjcif;?Motivation pdwftm;wuf<ujcif;? Empathy tjcm;olrsm;ae&mwGif 0ifcHpm;Edkifjcif;wkd hjzpfonf/ vljzpfvmjyDqdkvQif cHpm;csuf ygjrJyif/ cHpm;csufonf rD;ESifhwljyD; okH;wwfvQif aq;? rokH;wwfvQif ab;jzpfonf/ EQ jrifhvQif cHpm;csufonf vdk&mokH; aq;wpfvufjzpfoGm;um rdrdtusdK;? &yf&GmtusdK;? EdkifiHtusdK;udk xdxda&mufa&muf o,fydk;Edkifayrnf/