Mindful Coaching – October 2016

Attachments and Aversions

Attachment / Aversion
We are drawn toward pleasure and attached
to finding it / We avoid pain
We seek material gain and try to get what we want / We try to avoid losing what we have
We want to be known and respected / We have an intense dislike for shame, embarrassment, and loss of face
We are attached to praise and to being appreciated and even adored / We wish to avoid blame and responsibility for negative things
We want to be seen as competent / We want to avoid being seen as ineffective or unhelpful
We value a personal connection with others / We try to avoid tension or conflict in relationships
We look for a sensation of aliveness and creativity / We are impatient with rote conversation
We like the security of coaching according to a specific template or model / We try to avoid being seen as uncertain

Adapted from Silsbee, D. (2010). The mindful coach. San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass.

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