THE BAPTIST WOMAN
EXAM # 2
STUDY GUIDE
Lectures 8-15
Lecture 8
Virtuous = moral good; in conformity to divine law; chaste.
Who can find a virtuous woman? They are very rare today…close to extinct.
Having her husband Safely trust in her: this might be the most important attribute in today’s world…trustworthy.
she wants the very best food for her family; an impressive cook
She is willing to get up before everyone else to make sure all the family’s needs are taken care of.
She is financially savy and finds ways to invest money and then invest off of that interest.
She isn’t afraid of breaking a nail; she is physically healthy; she is capable of hard physical labor.
How much sleep do you get on average per night? 6 to 10 hours is considered healthy; you should lean towards the 6 hours if you are going to be like this virtuous woman?....
She is all about making her husband look good. She will never talk bad about him behind his back.
She is well respected. She is known for not being a weak, frail, insecure, silly woman.
One of the hardest things for a woman to control is her mouth (if not thee hardest!).
Her focus is on her household (husband, kids, and home). It isn’t on a career, or hobbies, or lady friends, or soccer, or tv, or shopping, or leisure. The household is the priority, and it shows.
It’s not ok to be just ‘virtuous’; she wants to be the best at it.
The key point behind this virtuous woman is her heart; her heart is focused on fearing the LORD. She is not focused on gaining favour or looking pretty.
Oh husbands and children, make sure to reward the virtuous woman in your life! Let her receive great benefit from her ‘fruit’.
Lecture 9
The Bible speaks of having a time with the Lord at evening, morning, and at noon.
The Bible speaks of going into one’s ‘closet’ to be alone with the Lord.
Chronic pain conditions could exist as a kind of ‘thorn in the flesh’ like the apostle Paul had.
Daniel’s diet craze was based on ‘pulse’ (green vegies).
Exercise is an important part of a woman’s health whether or not weight is a concern.
Harmful items to partake of include alcohol, coffee, tea, and high dosages of nutritionals.
Your physical body is the temple of the Holy Ghost.
Don’t be like Martha, who was cumbered about with many things, and missed the most important thing…time with God.
Common fears: loneliness; security; money; health; marriage; children; relationship with God; inferiority; rejection; backsliding. The Bible states to ‘be careful for nothing’; pray to God; be thankful; and the peace of God will come to you.
It is folly to try and win the Lotto. Don’t figure that everything will get better once you retire.
If you delight yourself in the Lord, He will give thee the desires of your heart.
You should not have any friends who are not an encouragement to you spiritually.
But, you can have ‘acquaintances’ who you try and win to the Lord.
Lecture 10
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him (Genesis 2:18).
This area of ‘help’ that will be so ‘meet’ (appropriate, completing) for the man (her husband) is dealing with her as a homemaker; a guider of the house; one that looketh to the ways of her household; a keeper at home; a builder of her house. This is where the Baptist woman is to be that ‘help’ ‘meet’ for her husband…
A ‘younger Baptist woman’ should stay at home with Mom and Dad until they are taken away by a godly man thru courtship-preceeded marriage. She should not be pursuing out of town education and/or a career. She should be practicing her ‘homemaking’ while still at home with her parents.
God said through Paul….1 Tim 5:14 I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
God said to be frutiful and multiply. If women don’t have babies, the human race will end! Men can’t have them. God wants us to have our quiver full of them! Baptist woman, have lots and lots of babies; you will then indeed have quite the career in guiding the house (homemaking) to pursue (talk to Sister Duggar!).
The Bible uses terms like: ‘guide the house’; ‘buildeth her house’; keepers at home; looketh well to the ways of her household.
A keeper at home might be much like a Zookeeper…
Feminisim goes as far as it can…all the way to the home! It is blatantly seen by ‘role reversal’…i.e. “Mr. Moms”.
The biggest mistake you'll ever make, and the loneliest road you'll ever travel, is the path to financial wealth and security.
A young woman should not have dreams of nor pursue the idol of ‘making money’; she should be taken care of by her father until she is handed over to a godly young man that will take care of her.
The Baptist woman should be pursuing a career in ‘HomeMaking’; she should try and get a Ph.D. in it! As much effort as the average wordly woman puts in to pursuing a career, let’s say, in Business Management, a Baptist woman should put into HomeMaking !
Oftentimes, the husband doesn’t want the wife to stop her career (of money making) because it would hurt their budget too much and would require him to work a lot more and do without some of his toys. And, thus, the career woman who now wants to be a Baptist woman, is caught,and is essentially now in a ‘forced labor camp’…by her husband. Yikes!
I also firmly believe it is a horrible sin to delay having children for the sake of pursuing a career. So I say to you, have a big family, and be there for them. Money should be the last of your priorities.
Lecture 11
God is very organized; He created the world in a very precise and organized way. God instructed Israel to give sacrifices and to worship Him in a clearly organized way. The New Testament churches are to do everything decently and in order.
The government was designed by God in a very organized fashion…likewise with the military. And, the family is to be organized also; home life should be organized; and the great organizer is the one who ‘guides the house’, the ‘keeper of the home’, the Baptist woman.
It takes at least 21 days to form a habit. This means that you have to do something at least 21 times before it begins to become part of your everyday routine.
Pad your time. If you think it’ll take 5 minutes, plan for 10-15.
Get ready (be)fore bed.
Set your clock and/or watch ahead the number of minutes that you're usually late.
Try placing your alarm clock on the other side of the room, so you actually have to get up out of bed to turn it off.
SCREEN YOUR CALLS. Let your answering machine take all your phone calls, and return calls on your time.
DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF. Don't allow trivial matters to aggravate you.
GET HELP. Don't try to do everything yourself. Split up household responsibilities among family members.
DON'T TRY TO REMEMBER EVERYTHING. There's no need to store it in your memory. Write it down, and write it in one place so that you can find it easily.
PLAN EACH DAY. Spend 10 minutes each night, planning for tomorrow.
Start with the White Elephant, the first thing that makes you go UGG when you walk into the space. Fix it, clean it, organize it, get rid of it. Whatever.
Instead of buying a 5 seater car than has limited trunk space, get an 8 passenger mini-van or Suburban…but there’s only 2 or 3 of us! Why not pick people up for church events?..... Have that extra room converted to a Missionary apartment... Decrease the yard size so that you don’t have to spend so much time caring for green cellulose fibers! Move from a large home to an RV!...
Lecture 12
Godliness is a matter of having a Godward orientation, of living life with the living God of the Bible consciously in mind. It is a life gripped and motivated by genuine love for this God, which necessarily involves the keeping of His commandments (1 John 5:3). It is trusting God enough to believe, study, digest, treasure and do His word. A godly wife must first be a godly woman; a godly servant of the Most High God; a godly servant in her church; a godly servant of souls in her community…
Your desire to be a godly wife in order to please God needs to be the most paramount desire within your being (if you are married). If your desire is higher to please your husband or please yourself, then you are by default not a godly wife, nor ever will be, if this unscriptural desire persists.
Being a godly wife isn’t based on a list of do’s and don’ts; it is based upon the right overriding desire guiding you as you purpose to be the wife that God wants you to be.
Do you understand where God wants you to help your husband? Not to help him by correcting his ‘obvious’ erred thinking or action, but to help him in taking care of more secondary issues(housework, etc) so that he can be freed up to lead the family to serve the Lord with all one’s heart, soul, and might!
Cut the cord! Cleave unto thy husband. You are one flesh…one body…one entity. You are no longer part of your parents family…… Don’t obey your father over your own husband.
Competing authorities in a wife’s life are a great danger; some even will include their pastor in the battle. The godly wife is to follow her husband, as unto the Lord…not as unto the Pastor…or as unto her Parents!
Godly wife, look for what God has done in you in this area; focus on that godly desire that He has placed in you; that desire to thy husband. Don’t be listening to your ego, your brain, your emotions, your friends, the world, Dr. Phil, or anyone else! Be on guard against this…
A little ‘praise, appreciation, way to go, goes a long ways. Praise your husband, godly wife! It will work to your advantage; he will want to please you; he will show you love; joyfully follow him… praise and adore him!
And, probably the most common reason for a husband seeking ‘spoil’ is a wife that is spoiled; one that doesn’t render due benevolence to her husband (1Co 7:3*). One that always seems to have an headache, or some excuse; it’s never the ‘right time’; there is always ‘contingencies’ applied; the husband detects that the wife doesn’t really ‘desire’ him anymore… oh how utterly dangerous this is!
Oh, dear godly wife, may your words be always refreshing, always helpful, always respectful, always adoring, always with his best interests in mind! Don’t give him a piece of your mind…give him a piece of your heart…
A real test of a submissive, godly, God-fearing heart, is to lovingly accept, follow, and even be thankful for one’s husband’s correction.
Lecture 13
When a woman chooses her spouse she is choosing the one whom she will gladly yield and surrender to. Choose your husband very carefully ladies. A key factor should be whether they are a good leader or not. Also, whether you find no problem in following their leadership.
In one sense, women are equal to men: in the relationship and position in Christ Jesus (Gal 3:28). Their rewards and position in His kingdom will not have gender as a factor. In fact, we don’t see females even mentioned in eternity future. But, in regards to the relationship and position in a marriage, this is not so.
There really is only one word that is needed to describe the wife’s duty to her husband….it is simply “submit”.
Submission is in itself much easier to do than to lead.
Words like “submit”, “reverance”, “subjection” sound very negative, but are actually quite positive when one examens what is necessary to have a smooth functioning godly marriage.
Who is the one that is in control of submitting? It is obviously the wife. It is not the husband! The husband is not to ‘make sure’ that there wife submits.
As a “head”, the husband should be allowed to “think” for the marriage “body”. Now, this doesn’t mean that the wife is to “play stupid”; it simply means they are to “allow” him that position of being the “thinker” for them.
The Bible states that the husband is to ‘rule over’ the wife.
It also states that a wife is to ‘obey’ her husband.
Obeying is more than just going along with someone elses commands; it is a willing heart to do those things that those in authority over you expect.
Wives are not to “submit themselves unto” : 1) what they think is ‘fair and reasonable’ that their husband says, 2) their father, 3) church dogma (where it clearly breaks from sound Scriptural teaching), 4) what some other ‘better’ husband does, 5) current social norms for womanhood (as found in all the ‘Women’s magazines’ on newsstands), 6) what they have read in the latest book by some famous female preacherette, 7) nor are they to submit to their Pastor……
No, they are simply to submit themselves unto their own husbands.
She is to obey her husband as is fit in the Lord…as unto the Lord. This means that she is not to obey her husband if he commands her to do something clearly contrary to God’s clear written word. She is to obey God rather than ‘man’.
Lecture 14
− Motherhood isn’t just with your own children; it also extends to the church family. You ‘older’ mothers, consider being
motherly to the younger folk….one big happy family!
Moms, don’t be so quick to want to get that highschool graduate out on their own. They need their
Mommy; that 20 year old son of yours needs you…until he finds a new Mommy….his wife! No
man should be without a ‘Mother’ around.
Also, how can one be a mother if they are never at home; never around to love those children; they
don’t keep the home; they are not primarily mothers, but are rather primarily ‘workers at Walmart’,
or wherever….
− Furthermore, it is awfully hard to be a good mother if you give 8 or more hours out of every day