Sexual Bullying May
1. Define Sexual Bullying?
Any bullying behavior, whether physical or non-physical, that is based on a person's sexuality or gender. It is when sexuality is used as a weapon by boys or by girls. It can be carried out to a person's face, behind their back or by use of technology.
2. How does the nature of this type of bullying differ for male and female students?
The nature of this type of bullying differs for male and female students because ‘the words used to bully boys tend to be derogatory terms defining them as “less than a boy”, whereas girls use words to objectify the victim’s body, demean their sexuality, or infantilize them. Examples: Boys- sissy, wuss, gay, etc. Girls- slut, whore, fat, etc.
3. What is the difference between flirting and verbal sexual bullying?
Flirting allows and invites both persons to swap roles with ease. It is intended to hurt the other person. Flirting maintains the basic dignity of both persons, is meant to be flattering and complimentary. It is an invitation to have fun together and enjoy each other’s company, but also invites sexual attention. It is intended to make the other person feel wanted, attractive, and in control. Therefore when the person who is being flirted with becomes upset, objects to the flirting, or isn’t interested, it is discontinued. Verbal Sexual Bullying is based on an imbalance of power and is one-sided; the bully sexually taunts, the bullied is demeaned and degraded. It is intended to harm and exploit, and to assert the status of the bully. Verbal sexual bullying is intended to be degrading or demeaning, to express control and domination, to violate the boundaries of the target, and to make the other person feel rejected, ugly, degraded, powerless, or uncomfortable. It especially continues especially when the targeted kid becomes distressed or objects to the sexual comment.
4. Give examples of sexual bullying?
Examples of sexual bullying are: grabbing, pinching someone in a sexual way, and calling people degrading names.
5. Is there a difference between sexual bullying and sexual assault?
Yes, there is a difference, because most states have related sexual assault with rape.
6. How does the victim feel/think?
The victim feels like they’re being verbally attacked. They may feel hopeless and also afraid to tell an adult. The bully makes them feel worthless.
7. How does the bully feel/think?
The bully feels empowered, confident, and self satisfied. He/she feels better knowing they have control over someone.
8. What would you do if you were sexually bullied?
I would do my best to ignore the person by all means. But when things get out of hand then I would take more critical matters by reporting the person.
9. What would you do if you were a bystander?
If I knew it was safe for me I would try to help the victim right away. If it’s not safe I would ask an adult for help.
10. What are the state and federal laws?
Schools are legally obligated to prevent and eliminate sexual harassment. The offender can be put in jail for a certain amount of time depending on the crime and they can also be sued.
11. Please list some great websites or Youtube videos educating teens about sexual bullying.
-http://www.stopsexualbullying.com/
12. Besides the above questions, what are some other questions teachers could use to lead a discussion?
-Besides the factual differences between flirting and verbal sexual bullying, what is your true opinion on the difference between flirting and verbal sexual bullying?
-How do you think sexual bullying can be stopped?
- Is gossiping about someone's sexual life considered sexual bullying? Explain.
For additional information on bullying please see the Mater Dei student planner pages 1-24 in the section entitled "Take Action Against Bullying!!" (in the back of the planner). Also kidsare.worthit.com is very helpful. For information on Mater Dei policies regarding bullying please see the section of the parent student handbook entitled "Level III Infractions" located on pages 36 and 37. A level III infraction will result in a combination of level III consequences. Three demerits are assigned for each.
With kindness and compassion,
Rachel’s Challenge Commissioners Robyn Molina & Kyarra Bright 11th