Tannen’s You’re Wearing That? (Excerpt)

Reading Check Quiz

Form: Message

  1. In the excerpt, Tannen supports her theory with all of the following examples EXCEPT
  1. a daughter cutting tomatoes
  2. a mother’s comment about clothes
  3. a wife’s hangnail
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  1. a daughter with the flu
  2. a daughter adopting a dog

  1. As Tannen uses it, the word “metamessage” means
  1. the literal meaning of words
  2. sarcasm
  3. message conveyed by facial expression
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  1. the implications of one’s words
  2. the universal understanding between women

  1. In this excerpt, Tannen mostly focuses on
  1. the effect of small, insignificant-seeming remarks
  2. spousal abuse
  3. fashion
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  1. divorced couples who separated because of misunderstandings
  2. women in therapy

  1. Tannen ends the excerpt
  1. with a quotation from a therapist
  2. with five practicalsteps for avoiding misunderstandings
  3. with the anecdote about the “ugly” shelter dog
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  1. with an anecdote about a daughter talking to her father on the phone
  2. with observations about the Harvard study

  1. When Tannen interviews the daughters of a dying woman, they say that they aren’t sure how they will survive without her, and also
  1. that they worry about their elderly father now
  2. Ding-dong, the witch is dead
  3. they wish they could apologize for all the hurtful things that they had said over the years
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  1. that she was far less critical of them after she got sick
  2. that sometimes they used to pretend that they were adopted

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  1. From this excerpt, we can tell that Tannen is clearly
  1. a liberal
  2. a feminist
  3. a teacher
/ d. a conservative
e. a woman who has two adopted children
  1. When Tannen discusses the verbal defense of pointing out what was actually said instead of what was meant, she uses the phrase
  1. reverting to momspeak
  2. crying literal meaning
  3. verbal goalie block
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  1. duck and cover
  2. classical avoidance syndrome

  1. When Tannen discusses hypothetical gifts, such as
a kitchen organizer, herpoint is that
  1. when people get upset about a gift, it is usually because of what the gift implies about them
  2. a thoughtful gift can make up for hurtful words
  3. gifts only work when children as young
/ d. people should not give
others gifts that they
themselves want
e. gifts are a type of
bribery, and cannot
buy forgiveness, and
instead only make
things worse
  1. According to Tannen
a. everything we say has a metamessage
b. metamessages only occur when we say one thing but mean another
c. metamessages only occur between members of the same sex / d. you must be looking at a person to pick up the metamessage
e. metamessages only occur when people have a long history together
  1. Tannen argues that many women tell their mothers
about minor misfortunes because they
  1. cannot evolve beyond the child-stage of life
  2. subconsciously want to sabotage their relationships
  3. are insecure about their other relationships
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  1. know their mothers will be caring in their response
  2. don’t know how to address major issues in a constructive way