Blue: The do-Gooders
Motive: Intimacy
Likes: Purpose & Meaning, depth, meaningful relationships
Strengths:Deep and thoughtful, Creative, Genius prone, Analytical-Always asking why, Serious, purposeful, Artistic, musical, Sensitive to Others, Idealistic
At Work: Schedule & Goal Oriented, Sees problems-finds creative solutions,
Detail conscious exact, precise, finishes what they started, developed, committed
As a Friend:Deep concern for others, empathetic, faithful
Parental Strengths: Excellent teacher of skills, observant, seeks to understand child’s behavior, sincere with kids, keeps an orderly home
Careers: teacher, homemaker, psychotherapist, musician, banker, journalist, nurse, carpenter, architect, clergy, librarian
LimitationsMoody, depressive, negative, critical, to introspective, analytical, too meticulous, perfectionist, hard to please, deep need for approval, lives through others, low self-esteem, impossible expectations
Parental Weakness:Requires a purpose in order to play, Lacks ability to relax,
Not spontaneous with activities, Frustrates children with unrealistic expectations
Strong sense of right and wrong, imposes guilt to kids
How to relate with a blue:
Be sensitive in your approach, be sincere and genuine, Promote their creativity
DO NOT: Make them feel guilty or demand perfection (they already expect it from themselves.)
Red: Looking for a small country to rule
Motive: Power, authority
Needs: To be right, respected, to look good
Has: Strong strengths, strong weaknesses
Likes: To be in charge, King of the Jungle
Strengths: Born leader, likes change and growth, determined, strong willed, confident, Assertive, goal oriented, achiever, direct and honest with opinions, organizes and delegates well, excels with logical thinking, decisive and responsible, self motivated, directed
Parental strengths: unquestioned leader in a home, excellent provider, quick with good advice, promotes children’s activities, excellent decision-maker, assumes responsibility for protecting family
Careers: Police or Military officer, politician, lawyer, Doctor, Film Critic, Building contractor, sales & Marketing, School Superintendent, Administrator, Building Contractor, Realtor,
Limitations: Bossy, Impatient, Dominates, Self-Centered, always wants their way, workaholic, driven to achieve, demanding to self and others, inconsiderate to needs of others, negative to others, has to be right, has a hard time apologizing
Parental Limitations: Difficult to please, unemotional/cold, wants strict obedience, requires final say, unfeeling of child’s fears/concerns, poor listener, detached from children, expects to much
How to relate: Present issues logically, be direct, brief and specific in conversation, demand attention and respect, support their decisive nature, be prepared with facts and figures
Do not: be slow & indecisive, do not expect a personal and intimate relationship, and try not to take things to personally from them
Yellow: Looking for a celebration!
Motive: Fun!
Likes: to be the life of the party, and they are hosting!
Strengths: appealing, likable, talkative, sociable, great ideas, inspires others to join the fun, apologizes quickly, likes spontaneous activities, story tellers, loves trivia, likes to volunteer, appreciates and lives for now, enthusiastic, energetic, expressive, emotional, creative, always finds humor in a situation, rarely follows through but loves starting
Parental strengths: Highly entertaining, promotes fun family activities, excellent short term leader, non-judgmental of kid’s friends
Career: firefighter, travel agent, circus performer, insurance agent, recreation leader, lifeguard, drama/acting, sales
Limitations: Dominates conversations, irresponsible & unreliable, disorganized, resents authority, feels no need for long term goals or planning for the future, needs to be center stage, egotistical, undisciplined, not willing to suffer for a good cause, short fuse for stress level, requires fun in all activities
Parental limitations: Self centered, meets own needs before children, inconsistent with discipline & work, likes enjoying kids more than teaching them, wants to be the friend and not the parent, lacks the discipline for house cleaning or keeping a stable income
How to relate to a yellow: Be positive, promotes playful activities for and with them, adore them
DO NOT: Be to serious or push to intensely, demand perfection or expect them to dwell on problem
Whites: Let’s not make a fuss
Motives: keep the peace
Likes: To feel good more
Has: low key strengths & low key weaknesses
Strengths: Easy going, relaxed, calm, cool collected, patient, unruffled, sympathetic, good listener, makes a good parent, administrative ability, well balanced,
At Work: steady, peaceful, agreeable, competent, kind, negotiates well, calm under pressure, not in a hurry, takes time for kids,
Every parent/teacher needs at least one white child, they have lots of friends and are well liked
Parental strengths: takes time to enjoy each child, flows well with crisis, agreeable with difficult children, slow to react with anger, demonstrated unity with spouse, respected by children for gentle manner and style
Limitations: unenthusiastic, avoids responsibility, to shy and compromising, self-righteous, indecisive, lazy, careless, not goal oriented, takes a passive app roach to life, resists change, resents being pushed, fearful of confrontation, avoids conflict, resists making commitments, reserved, keeps feelings hidden, fears change and risk
Parental Limitations: easily controlled or ignored by spouse or children, poor leadership and delegation with kids, does not initiate activities with kids, works obsessively to maintain peace
How to relate: be loving and firm, patient and gentle, casual, relaxed, informal, simple and open
DO NOT: be domineering, force verbal expression, force confrontation