OnHonesty in Communication

Prov 15:22-23

22 Without consultation, plans are frustrated, But with many counselors they succeed.

23 A man has joy in an apt answer, And how delightful is a timely word!

Prov 11:14

14 Where there is no guidance the people fall, But in abundance of counselors there is victory.

Honesty : Ask yourself ( as the future mate ): DoItell you the truth even when it's hard? Do Icommunicate openly about my feelings, struggles, past, and failures? Do I take responsibility for my actions (own up) when I do something wrong or hurtful? Do I ever twist the truth or minimize to get out of trouble or make myself look better? Remember: Counting on your partner's word in marriage is vital. You count on each other's honesty. In a dating relationship, there should be all the signs of honesty and openness. You and the person you are dating should be willing to open up and talk about the hard areas of your life, you shouldn't try to hide or twist truth, and you should take responsibility when you do something wrong. You shouldn't be afraid to admit when you mess up.If you have a pattern of lying / deception before the marriage and your partner knows this, will he absolutely trust your word in the marriage?

Prov 6:16-17

16 There are six things which the LORD hates,

Yes, seven which are an abomination to Him:

17 Haughty eyes, a lying tongue,…..

1 Peter 2:1-3

Therefore, putting aside all malice and all deceitand hypocrisy and envy and all slander, 2 like newborn babies, long for the pure milk of the word, so that by it you may grow in respect to salvation, 3 if you have tasted the kindness of the Lord.

Phil 4:8-9

8 Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. 9 The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.

Here is a definition as to what a lie is according to Webster’s dictionary:

1.) To make a statement that one knows is false, especially with the intent to deceive.

2.) To give a false impression or action or false statement, especially with the intent to deceive.

3.)To make a false statement in order to evade the truth.

4.)The invention of a false story or excuse in order to deceive.

5.) To make a statement which in itself may be true in part, but especially stated with the intent to deceive. The goal is to give a false impression or perception.

Perhaps for a Christian, a Biblical definition of lying could be summed up in this statement: Any time our word does not agree fully with God’s Word.

The two main reasons we lie are usually rooted in either fear or pride. Fear is the first reason. We are afraid of the consequences if we tell the truth. Yielding to fear shows a lack of trust in God to take care of the situation. If we yield to God and do it His way He will usually give us favor with those that we fear. The other reason is pride. We are prideful and concerned about what men will think of us (desiring man’s approval instead of God’s approval.)

Always Obey and trust God and leave the consequences to Him and He will abundantly bless you.