Embassy Suites Raleigh Crabtree

North Carolina Hotel

4700 Creedmoor Road

Raleigh, NC 27612

reservation number is 800-362-2779 or 918-881-0000

Rooms at $ 149 with cut off date is 8/31/2017

NC 24 hr. Parenting Coordination Training DAY 1

Susan Boyan, LMFT

Cooperative Parenting Institute, Atlanta, Ga.

8:00-8:30 Networking and Coffee

8:30-10:00 (1.5 hrs)

I. The Impact of High Conflict on Families

The Adult Perspective

The Five Transitions of Divorce

The Extended Family Perspective

The Tribal Perspective

II. The Child’s Perspective on Divorce

5 Psychological Tasks of Children of Divorce (Wallerstein)

Typical Reactions PG

Seven Influential Factors (Garrity and Barris)

Impact of High-Conflict on Children

Coping Styles of Children

Personality Styles that Emerge in Children

III. The History and Growth of Parenting Coordination

The Problem and the Solution: Power Chart (Ward)

Role and Responsibilities

Common Practices

10:00-10:15 Morning Break

10:15-12:15 (2 hrs)

Appointment

Order vs stipulation

Statutes vs Local Rule

NC Statutes

Degree of authority

Parenting Coordination vs Other Roles

The CPI Model of Parenting Coordination

Goals

Theoretical Principals

Methodology

Educational Foundation

IV. Setting Up a Parenting Coordination Practice

Referral Sources and Opportunities

Financial Concerns and Other Matters

Parent Coordination Assessment Forms

Record Keeping and Documentation

North Caroline Protocol

V. The Legal System

Systems Perspective

Legal and Custody Terminology

The document appointing a Parenting Coordinator

Understanding Joint Legal Responsibilities

Confidentiality vs Privilege

Working with Attorneys and the GAL

VII. Incorporating Step Parents and S.O.s into the Process

Knowing when to Include the Step-Parent or S.O.

Asset or Liability?

The Over-involved Step-parent

The Under-involved Step-parent

The Complimentary Step-parent

12:15-1:15 Lunch

1:15-3:15 (2 hours)

VI. Protocol for Different Types of Sessions (with Demonstrations)

Initial Intake

Child Intake

First Joint Session

Joint Sessions

Family Sessions

Reunification Sessions

Relapse Prevention Sessions

3:15-3:30 Afternoon Break

3:30-5:00 (1.5 hrs)

Step-Parent Intake

Step-Parent and Parent Session

Coaching Sessions

Session Checklist and Overview

VIII. Parental Alienation and Visitation Refusal

Normal Visitation Refusal vs Alienation

Parental Alienation Versus Parental Alienation

Alienation Continuum

Alienating Parents

Characteristics

Behaviors

Targeted Parents

Characteristics

Behaviors

Alienated Children

Characteristics

Child Behaviors

Interventions

Mild

Moderate

Severe

Reunification Treatment

Long Term Outcome Research (Baker)

NC homework: handout of parenting coordination dilemmas with questions to be completed. North Carolina statues and Court Expectation to review.

DAY ONE: 8:30-5 = 8.5 or 7 hours

NC Homework = 1.5 hrs for a total of 8.5 hours

NC Parenting Coordination Training DAY 2

Susan Boyan, LMFT, Cooperative Parenting Institute

8:00-8:30 Networking and Coffee

8:30-10:00 (1.5 hrs)

I. Custody and Cooperation

Characteristics that Influence Joint Custody

Domestic Violence versus High Conflict Cases

Parallel Parenting

II. Developmental Factors and Attachment

Considerations

Parental Factors and Availability

Degree of Conflict

Child Factors

Environmental Factors

Transfer or Exchange Issues

Developmental Stages

Attachment

Temperament

Other Family Factors

Young Children and the Overnight Debate

III. Time Sharing Options

Plans Based on Age and Degree of Conflict

Time Sharing Options

10:00-10:15 Morning Break

10:15-12:15 (2 hrs)

Long Distance Plans

Transitions Between Homes

Supervised and Therapeutic Visitation

IV. Writing Age Appropriate Parenting Plans

The Scope and Nature of Parenting Plans

Pre-Divorce Parenting Plans

Parenting Plan Checklist

Post Decree Parenting Plans

Find the Loop Holes Activity Handout

Recognizing professional biases and its influence

V. Educational Techniques for High Conflict Parents

Facilitating An Effective Communication System

Communication Skills for Conflicted Parents

Encouraging Parent-Child Communication

VI. Containing and Assisting Angry Parents

Anger vs Aggression

Anger and Emotional Abuse

Eight Provocations That Result in Anger

Anger Management Techniques

Cognitive Restructuring PG

Cost-Cost

Reframing

Rating Scales

Metaphors

12:15-1:15 Lunch

1:15-3:15 (2 hrs)

Impulse Control Techniques

STPA

Feedback Forms

Fire Cards

Video Taping

Containment Techniques

Limit Setting

Relaxation Techniques

Coaching

Rituals

Consequences

Referrals

VII. Other Strategies and Techniques

Expectations and Agreement Contract

Fostering Commitment

Mutual Goal Setting

Maintaining a Child Focus

Photo

Hopes and Dreams

Three Rings

Position vs Interest

Facilitating Parental Responsibility

Divorce Rules

Action Plan

Acoustic Activity

Guiding Problem Solving Process

Increasing Parental Respect

Positive Qualities

Encouraging Exceptions and Amplifying Change

Frame Activity

Expect the Unexpected

Letting Go and Realignment Activities

Grief Rituals

Forgiveness PG

Detachment Activities PG

Positive Memories PG

Externalizing the Problem

View From Above Technique

Motivational Assignments

Metaphors

Effective Storytelling

3:15-3:30 Afternoon Break

3:30-5:00 (1.5)

VIII. Managing Noncompliance and Resistance

Feedback Sheets

Video

Memos

Fees and other Sanctions

IX. Dealing with Axis II and Vulnerable Parents

Systems vs Pathology

Narcissistically Vulnerable Parents

Personality Disordered Parents and Tips for Managing

Histrionic

Narcissistic

Borderline

High vs Low Functioning

Acting in vs Acting Out

Assumptions

Defense Mechanisms

Narcissistic Demands

Lack of Object Constancy

Feelings Determine Facts

Manipulation vs Desperation

Rage

BPD Parenting

Dependent