Is It Love Or Infatuation?

LOVE WORKSHEETS

IS IT LOVE OR INFATUATION?

For each of the following characteristics, place a capital L in the blank if it describes love or an I in the blank if it describes infatuation.

1.  Grows slowly and steadily.
2.  Begins quickly and grows fast.
3.  Inspires ambition to achieve goals.
4.  Partner hides some undesirable traits for fear the other will not understand or will not like him or her.
5.  Partners are trusting, honest, and open about feelings.
6.  Partners overlook each other’s faults by smoothing over personal problems and difficulties in the relationship.
7.  Physical attraction may be one part of the relationship.
8.  Partners are dishonest with each other about their feelings.
9.  Partners are unselfish and think in terms of “we” instead of “me.”
10. Physical attraction of “sex appeal” is the main focus of the relationship.
11. Partner is accepting of other people in the other partner’s life.
12. Partner is slow to accept other people in the other partner’s life.
13. Partners are aware of each other’s faults, but are willing to work through problems and difficulties in the relationship.
14. Partner tends to narrow one’s interests.
15. Partners are free to be themselves with each other.
16. Partners are selfish and think in terms of “me” instead of “we.”

APPLYING WHAT YOU’VE READ

1.  Explain the difference between “being in love” and loving someone.

2.  Can you fall out of love with someone? Why or why not?

3.  Does loving someone cause you risks? If yes, what are they? If no, why not?

4.  When you love someone, do you have any responsibilities to him or her? If yes, what are they?

5.  Is love worth the risks involved? Why or why not?

6.  What part should sexual relations play in a loving relationship?

7.  What are ways to express love without having sexual relations?

8.  Should people have a sexual relationship without loving each other?

9.  Describe a romantic, loving relationship. Would people of the opposite gender describe it the same way? What do you think they would say?

10. Is there only one person for you to love in this world? Explain.

11. Does time determine when a relationship becomes a loving one? Explain.

12. When people are jealous, is it because they care or because they are possessive? Explain.

INTIMACY IS…

…being free to communicate thoughts and feelings honestly and openly to another person.

…an emotional closeness that two people share.

…each person being important to the other.

Sexual relations do not create intimacy!

Type a minimum of 5 sentences explaining your reaction to the above description of intimacy.