Davenport Elementary School Counseling Program
Emotion Management Lesson: Being Patient
Grade: K
Personal/SocialStandard A: Students will acquire the knowledge, attitudes, and interpersonal skills to help them understand and respect self and others.
Competencies: 1.5 – identify and express feelings
1.6 – distinguish between appropriate and inappropriate behavior
1.8 – understand the need for self-control and how to practice it
Personal/Social Standard B: Students will make decisions, set goals, and take necessary action to achieve goals.
Competency: 1.4 – develop effective coping skills for dealing with problems
Objectives:
· Students will learn the feeling words “patient,” “impatient,” and “frustrated.”
· Students will learn that sometimes they need to use patience when they have a problem.
· Students will learn ways to cope with the frustration of not having their needs met immediately.
Materials: Puppet; a sheet of stickers (enough for each student in class)
Procedure:
1. Have puppet with you at start of lesson.
Introduce lesson about some new feeling words.
Introduce puppet who will help you.
Puppet wants to show students the new sticker he got. Counselor tells puppet it
is OK if he quickly shows the sticker. Use a worn out sticker that won’t stick.
Have puppet try to stick sticker on self a few times but won’t work. Puppet
gets frustrated and throws a little fit.
Use this to introduce first feeling word – frustrated. Ask class how puppet is
feeling. Define frustrated (i.e. frustrated is a feeling we get when something
doesn’t go how we want or we can’t get or do something we want)
2. Puppet pleads with counselor to get a new sticker.
Counselor tells puppet if he waits until the end of the lesson, he can get a new sticker.
Puppet continues to plead for a sticker and is reminded he needs to wait.
Ask student if they ever have to wait for things they want.
Get ideas from class.
Ask teacher for examples of times she needs her students to wait for things.
(waiting to get a drink, ask a question, have teacher check your work, etc.)
Introduce words patient/impatient. Have puppet interrupt you a couple times
during this portion being impatient to get his new sticker.
Use new feeling words to talk about puppet:
What problem is (puppet) having today? (His sticker lost its sticky)
How is he feeling about that? (Frustrated)
When he is frustrated he feels like he needs his new sticker RIGHT NOW!
When he feels like he can’t wait what do we call that feeling? (Impatient)
If he reminds himself he can wait and keeps calm what do we call that?
(Patient)
3. Tell class when they see puppet being impatient they should hold up a hand in
front of them (wait signal) to remind puppet to be patient. You might also have
them say together, “Be patient, (puppet)” Have puppet occasionally ask again
for a sticker or try to take a sticker from you, etc. so they can catch him being
impatient.
4. Use Second Step poster calming down ideas as ways to help you be patient.
When you are patient you can stay calm and tell yourself to wait. Have puppet
practice these with students. Tell puppet if he waits quietly and patiently for
the rest of the time he can have a new sticker.
5. Tell class you would like to give each of them a sticker, but that they will
have to show you patience to get their sticker, too. Ask them to go to their seats and sit and wait quietly. Remind them if they come up to you to get a sticker, or ask to be next, or get out of their seat, etc, you will see that they are impatient and will not be able to give them a sticker until they are being patient.