Breaking the Cycle of Self-Sabotage
Breaking the Cycle of Self-Sabotage
By Randy Gage
Could you be sabotaging your own prosperity because you’re Gay? Sounds crazy, but it’s actually quite common.
One of the biggest issues I see when consulting with people about success and abundance is their sense of unworthiness. Most worthiness issues are developed at a young age, usually as a result of being made to feel inferior. And this is rampant in the Gay community.
Case in point: I was sitting in church with the guy I was dating. We were behind two men that were expressing a lot of affection with each other during the service.
Afterward my lover commented on how inappropriate the two men had been acting. I replied that I thought they looked very much in love, and asked what better place to express it than a house of worship. He disagreed vehemently. I wanted to know why.
He responded that it wasn’t appropriate, because “there were kids in attendance and they saw this.” Like a lightning flash, the cause of many of our arguments came to me. “You know what your problem is?” I exclaimed. “You’re homophobic.”
“How can I be homophobic when I’m Gay?” he replied.
Simple. He was raised in Mexico, in a devout Catholic family. He was taught from his earliest years that Gay people were going to rot and burn in Hell, with gnashing of teeth. So even though he grew up and came out as a homosexual on a conscious level, he still had all kinds of subconscious programming that he was a sorry sinner. When you have this kind of subliminal belief, you don’t think you deserve happiness or success. And you sabotage yourself every time you start to get it.
Now, millions of people around the world, Gay and straight, have worthiness issues. They’re the result of “mind viruses” we get infected with from government, media, and organized religion. The most common are ‘money is bad,’ ‘rich people are evil’ and ‘it’s spiritual to be poor.’ That’s where it starts.
Also, people with disabilities, minorities and almost anyone who seems different can get discriminated against and buy into the notion that they are somehow not as good as everyone else. But it’s even worse for many Gays. Here’s why:
Let’s suppose you’re a minority being raised in a city that isn’t very accepting of you. This certainly could cause some issues for anyone. But you still would have family, friends and other members of your minority community to accept you. But what if you’re Gay?
Sometimes you’re ostracized by your community, your friends don’t understand you, and you may even be rejected by your family. But if your own mother or father suggests that something is wrong with you – that you’re somehow flawed – is it any surprise that you may grow up and have insecurities or feel you’re not deserving of all life has to offer?
The other day I tweeted a link on my Twitter feed to an article about the possibility that Gandhi was Gay. One of my followers immediately wrote back that this suggestion was absurd, because “Gandhi was a great man with strong character.” That response isn’t particularly surprising, as there is a lot of ignorance still out there. But what happens when it’s someone you love?
I had a very dear friend ask me if they have discovered if there is a “defective gene that causes people to be Gay.” This is someone who loves me and accepts me! Now throw in the hate mongers like Fred Phelps and Pat Robertson, mix in being young and impressionable, and imagine the consequences.
It may seem hard to believe that you are sabotaging yourself at 30, 40 or 50 years old from a belief you developed in childhood, but I see it all the time. I believe the earlier you discover you’re Gay, the more likely you are to experience psychological issues.
Being 12, 14 or 16 years old and having to deal with this kind of rejection shouldn’t happen to anyone. But of course it does. The high number of Gay teen suicides is a testament to the insidious effects of this. Dysfunctional relationships, drug abuse, and other death wish behaviors exhibited in the Gay community are other symptoms.
So how do you know if you’re sabotaging yourself?
It’s pretty simple, actually. If you’re not living a life of health, happiness, and prosperity, it’s a safe bet you are sabotaging yourself. You are meant to live a life of abundance. If you’re not, you’re not accepting the good you deserve to have.
So if you’ve been sabotaging your prosperity, how can you break the cycle?
Ninety percent of the fight is simply recognizing that you have been infected with these mind viruses and limiting beliefs on a subconscious level. Once you are aware of them, you can eliminate them and replace them with empowering beliefs. Here are some ways to take charge of your own programming:
· Spend some quiet time in the morning reading positive books.
· Put a “prosperity map” of things you want to do, have or become somewhere where you’ll see it every morning and before you go to sleep.
· Speak affirmations in the present tense.
· Spend more time with people who accept you for who you are, and less with those that don’t.
There are those who would have you believe you’re not worthy of prosperity because you’re Gay. Sometimes fundamentalism is simply a code word for intolerance and hate. Don’t buy into the lies. You were born to be healthy, happy and prosperous. Accept the abundance you deserve!
About Randy Gage: Prosperity Expert Randy Gage rose from a jail cell as a teen to become a self-made multi-millionaire. Along the way, he overcame addictions, getting shot, and near bankruptcy to go on to inspire millions around the world. Randy is the author of nine international bestsellers which have been translated into more than 25 languages. His new book, Risky is the New Safe, debuted #1 at Barnes & Noble on Oct. 30 and quickly rose to #1 on The Wall Street Journal Business and USA Today Money bestseller lists. Risky is the New Safe has been called “a step-by-step blueprint for succeeding in today's new world,” and “a survival guide for an increasingly unpredictable future.” Connect with Randy at http://www.RandyGage.com and on Prosperity TV: http://www.youtube.com/randygage. Learn more about his new book at: www.randygage.com/riskyisthenewsafe.