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Bibliography: Grief Resources

GENERAL RESOURCES:

Bauer, Cecile. Caregiver’s Gethsemane: When a Loved One Longs To Die. Paulist Press, New York, 1995.

Callanan, Maggie. Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Communications of the Dying. Bantam Books, New York, 1997.

Carr, G. Lloyd and Gwendolyn C. Carr. The Fierce Goodbye: Hope in the Wake of Suicide. InterVarsity Press, Downers Grove, IL, 1990.

Diets, Bob. Life After Loss: A Personal Guide Dealing with Death, Divorce, Job Change and Relocation. Fisher Books, Tucson, 1992.

Floyd, Gregory. A Grief Unveiled: One Father’s Journey Through the Death of A Child. Paraclete Press, Brewster, MA, 1999.

Harwell, Amy. Ready to Live, Prepared to Die: A Provocative Guide to the Rest of Your Life. Harold Shaw Publishers, Wheaton, IL, 1995.

------. When Your Friend Gets Cancer: How You Can Help. Harold Shaw Publishers, Wheaton, IL, 1987.

Von Hildebrand, Alice. By Grief Refined: Letters to a Widow. Franciscan University Press, Steubenville, OH, 1994.

Ingram, Kristen Johnson. Always Precious in Our Memory: Reflections after Miscarriage, Stillbirth or Neonatal Death. 1997. ACTA Publications, 4848 North Clark Street, Chicago, IL 60640. 800.397.2282.

Jones, Doris Moreland. And Not One Bird Stopped Singing: Coping with Transition and Loss in Aging. Upper Room Books, Nashville, TN, 1997.

Kreeft, Peter. Making Sense Out of Suffering. Servant Books, Ann Arbor, MI, 1986.

Lewis, C.S. A grief Observed. Harper & Row Publishers, San Francisco, 1961.

Linn, Erin. Premonitions, Visitations and Dreams of the Bereaved. The Publisher’s Mark, PO Box 6300, Incline Village, Nevada 89450-6300. (702) 831-5139. 1982.1991.

------. I Know Just How You Feel: What to Say to Bereaved People. The Publisher’s Mark, PO Box 6300, Incline Village, Nevada 89450-6300. (702) 831-5139.

McCracken, Anne. A Broken Heart Still Beats: After Your Child Dies. Hazelden, Center City, MN, 1998.

Strommen, Merton P. and A. Irene Strommen. Five Cries of Grief: One Family’s Journey to Healing After the Tragic Death of a Son. HarperSanFrancisco, 1993.

Wangerin, Walter Jr. Mourning into Dancing. Zondervan, Grand Rapids, MI, 1992.

Wright, H. Norman. Recovering from the Losses of Life. Fleming H. Revell Company, Tarrytown, New York, 1991.

Zunin, Leonard M. The Art of Condolence: What to Write, What to Say, What to Do At A Time of Loss. Harper Perennial, 1992.

HELP FOR GRIEVING CHILDREN

Dodd, Robert V. Helping Children Cope with Death. Herald Press, Scottdale, PA., 1984.

Practical suggestions about how to talk to children about death, both someone else’s and their own. Christian perspective.

Fitzgerald, Helen. The Grieving Child: A Parent’s Guide. Simon & Schuster, 1992.

Helpful guide for parents in understanding and responding to a child’s grief.

Furman, Erna. A Child’s Parent Dies: Studies in Childhood Bereavement. Yale University Press, New Haven, 1974.

Case studies of 23 children; offers concrete suggestions for helping children cope.

Grollman, Earl A., editor. Explaining Death to Children. Beacon Press, Boston, 1967.

Classic work featuring children’s views and understandings of death; attention to Roman Catholic, Protestant, and Jewish teachings.

------. Talking About Death. Beacon Press, Boston, 1976.

Comforting dialog between parent and child about death, feelings, funerals, and remembering.

------. Bereaved Children and Teens. Beacon Press, Boston, 1995.

Excellent collection of knowledge and compassionate understanding for caregivers.

Harpham, Wendy Schlessel. When A Parent Has Cancer: A Guide To Caring For Your Children. Harper Collins, 1997.

Good ideas for helping children through the upheaval of a parent’s cancer diagnosis and treatment; concrete suggestions for creating a “new normal,” in which cancer is a manageable part of daily life.

Linn, Erin. Children Are Not Paper Dolls. The Publisher’s Mark, PO Box 6300, Incline Village, Nevada 89450-6300. (702) 831-5139. 1982.

Book of drawings and quotes by children whose siblings have died.

------. 150 Facts About Grieving Children. The Publisher’s Mark, 1990.

Miller, Susan. After the Boxes Are Unpacked: Moving On After Moving In. Focus on the Family Publishing, Colorado Springs, 1995.

Chapter 14: Suggestions for Christian families after relocation.

Rando, Therese. How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies. Bantam, New York, 1991. Useful chapter on how to talk to children about death.

Splinter, John P. The Complete Divorce Recovery Handbook. Zondervan, Grand Rapids, 1992.

Chapter 7: Wise and compassionate insights for divorcing parents and other adults who care for children affected by divorce.

Staudacher, Carol. Beyond Grief: A Guide for Recovering from the Death of A Loved One. New Harbinger publications, Oakland, CA. 1987.

Chapter 6: Surviving loss during childhood. Excellent overview with instruction about childhood grief and suggestions for facilitating healing.

FOR PROFESSIONAL CAREGIVERS:

Crenshaw, David A. Bereavement: Counseling the Grieving Throughout the Life Cycle. Crossroad Publishing Company, New York, New York, 1996.

Preschool through elderly grieving patterns and the task of those who witness and assist people in each stage of grieving.

Rando, Therese A. Grief, Dying, and Death: Clinical Interventions for Caregivers. Research Press, Champaign, Illinois, 1984.

Chapter 12: The family of the dying patient. Classic work which outlines the clinical and therapeutic family context.

Wolfelt, Alan. Helping Children Cope With Grief. Accelerated Development, Bristol, PA, 1983.

Instruction on children’s grief and specific suggestions for caregivers.

------Death and Grief: A Guide for Clergy. Accelerated Development, 1900 Frost Road, Suite 101, Bristol, PA 19007. 800.821.8312. 1988.

Worden, J. William. Children and Grief: When A Parent Dies. Guilford Press, New York, 1996.

Helpful research from The Child Bereavement Study about how children grieve and how to help them.

RESOURCES FOR CHILDREN:

Carson, Jo. You Hold Me and I’ll Hold You. Orchard paperbacks, 1992.

Sensitive look at death from a child’s view with emotional honesty and emphasis on mutual comforting. Ages 4-7.

Coleman, William L. When Someone You Love Dies. Augsburg, Minneapolis, 1994.

Short, readable chapters. Insightful, compassionate. Sound theology and psychology. Ages 8-12.

Gootman, Marilyn E. When A Friend Dies: A Book for Teens About Grieving and Healing. Free Spirit Publishing, Minneapolis, 1994. Teens.

Brief, compassionate and wise. An excellent common sense resource for teens.

Krementz, Jill. How It Feels When A Parent Dies. Knopf, New York, 1981. Seventh Printing, 1996. Ages 7-16.

Children and teens offer memories and thoughts in their own insightful and poignant words about their parents’ death.

MacGregor, Cynthia. Why Do We Have To Move? Carol Publishing Group, Secaucus, New Jersey, 1996. Ages 5-8.

Helps children know what to expect and how to deal with the “spinach” and “chocolate” events of relocation.

Marxhausen, Joanne. If I Should Live, If I Should Die. Concordia Publishing House, St. Louis, Mo.

Mellonie, Bryan and Ingpen, Robert. Lifetimes. Bantam Books, New York, 1983. Ages 4-8.

Explains death to children in terms of natural “lifetimes.”

Merrifield, Margaret and Collins, Heather. Morning Light. Stoddart Publishing, Company, Limited, 1995. Ages 4-10.

Educational storybook for children and their caregivers about HIV/AIDS and saying goodbye. Lists helpful resources.

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