KAIROS OUTSIDE

FOR WOMEN

TEAM FORMATION

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TRAINING RESOURCES

Additional suggestions for enriching team preparation including:

  • Ice breakers
  • Team discussion strategies
  • Building effective team & team values
  • Compassionate listening
  • Boundaries
  • The struggle to love
  • Guilt, anger, forgiveness & grief
  • Establishing table families
  • Table discussion role play

Prayer circleESTABLISHING TEAM VALUES

The following proforma is to be completed in small groups with responses, then shared and correlated. This then becomes a reference point throughout team formation for prayer and reflection.

Essentials which characterise life together as a team:

Essentials? / Looks like? / Feels like? / Sounds like?
Love and Unity
Effective Communication
Valuing One Another
Commitment
Acceptance
Joyfulness/Enthusiasm
Trust and Respect
Shared Goals and Vision
Servanthood
Effective Leadership
Prayer

SET YOUR FOCUSON CARING FOR PEOPLE…get involved

When you set your focus on others, you create intimate relationships.

Being prepared to add value to others will be in direct proportion to the level of love we can put into our relationships with them.

“In the right key one can say anything. In the wrong key, nothing: the only delicate part is the establishment of the key.” George Bernard Shaw

Group / What I can do for them?
Leadership team
Prayer team
Music/AV team
Servers
Table Leaders
Chaplains
Agape team
Kitchen team

UNDERSTANDING THE STRUGGLE TO LOVE

Exercise

1.5 sentences beginning with

Love is……………………………

2.5 sentences beginning with

Love is not …………………………..

3.Complete this sentence too

I am loving when I …………………………..

4.Do you find it harder to give love or harder to receive love?

Discuss this with the person(s) near you if you would like to.

ESTABLISHING A KAIROS OUSIDE TABLE FAMILY

Diversity makes a community rich and alive. The early Christians were not at all alike in their personalities – but they learned to come together in harmony. In our table families, we will each have our own style or interaction with the group, but we must learn to share with others in a peaceful, harmonious way.The following styles of interaction have both positive and negative contributions to make to the group. However, when a style of interaction becomes destructive to sharing, the Leader must have ways of refocusing the group. Complete this proforma in small groups.

Style / Positive Contribution / Negative Contribution / How to handle when disruptive
Confident
contributor
Silent observer
Intellectualiser
(Christian?)
Objector/Critic
(non-Christian?)
Story teller

All groups go through ups and downs: periods of resistance, conflict and boundary-testing. Nevertheless, the group development process should be one of gradual growth towards greater acceptance and trust, all-member contribution and increasing ‘depth’ and openness. Blockages in the group process (and the flow of discussion) can be caused by a variety of personal and inter-personal factors. Here are a few of the common ones…

Blockage / What occurs (and why…) / What to do about it
Personality clash / Two or more members clash: the group begins to withdraw or form into factions.
Locked-in viewpoint / A person won’t budge, and can’t seem to take in other people’s points.
Getting off track / Someone’s remarks are consistently ‘off-base’ or rambling off track.
Griping / Someone seems to have a pet peeve – or may have a legitimate complaint.
Rescuing/fixing/
Advising / Someone tells others what they should do or feel; wants to make everything OK; takes over a servant role.
Blockage / What occurs (and why…) / What to do about it
Argument / Someone goes into attack mode, heckles, criticises – or is just angry and upset by her own problems.
Definitely wrong / Someone comes up with a comment that is obviously incorrect (and unhelpful for others)
Asking for your opinion, advice / Someone wants you to take a side or solve a problem (or just wants to put you on the spot)
Just not talking / Someone seems to be bored, indifferent, resistant, timid or insecure.