Dating Advice
You don't need a fairy godmother, travel in a magic pumpkin coach or wear Cinderella's glass shoes to enjoy the joys of dating with the person you like.
Our dating guide covers everything from getting dates, asking for the date to what to talk during the date and how to end the date.
Don't worry. If you stayed one moment longer than midnight, your magic coach would not be a pumpkin again, your horses will not turn to mice, your coachman will not become a rat, your footmen will not turn back to lizards, and your clothes won't become just as they were before.
Go, have your fun.
We will take care of the mice, rat and lizards. You take care of your clothes
Asking For The Date
There's nothing really complicated about asking for a date. Ideally, you should ask someone in person so that he or she won't have any difficulty in "placing" you, but telephoning is perfectly acceptable, too.
It is best, however, to have gotten to know the person you are asking through previous conversation before suddenly springing a request for a date. Those conversations give you a chance to ascertain your compatibility with each other.
If you call, mention the last conversation the two of you had together and how much you enjoyed it. You might also mention the setting and some of the topics you discussed to help jog the other's memory. Then simply say something like, "I was wondering if you would like to go with me to the (movie, dance, etc.) on Saturday night?"
If you are worried about your mind going completely blank when you make the call, the authors of How to Date With Confidence, Barbara Siegel and Scott Siegel, recommend that you simply make a list of things you want to say before you call. Not a word-for-word speech, of course. Just a few words to jog your memory. (No one can see you looking at your notes on the phone!)
If the other person should decline, don't take it too personally. Perhaps they feel they don't know you well enough. If this is the case, try to become better acquainted before you ask again.
In the event that the person you call declines, simply say something like, "Well, maybe another time." and let it go at that. Don't try to change the person's mind. You will only make a nuisance of yourself. Besides, there is always another time.
A general rule of thumb is to ask the same person for a date three times. If she says she is busy each time, you can assume that she doesn't wish to go out with you. Ask another person. And another. Eventually, you will find one who is right for you.
If someone you like calls you for a date, and you are available for the time requested, you have it made. But what if you aren't available? Or, what if you aren't interested in the person who called? What should you do then?
If you are interested but aren't available, you should say something like. "Oh, I'm sorry. I promised I'd take my brother to band practice that night. Would you give me a rain check? Thus, you express your disappointment, tell the caller the reason you can't make it for the date, and request to reschedule it for another time. The best thing to do is to suggest setting another date, time and event on the spot.
If the caller says he or she will look for another event to take you to, but doesn't get down to specifics at that moment, it's a good idea to say how much you appreciated their call the next time you see them, and how much you regret having had to refuse. Chances are, they'll think of you again.
But what if you really aren't interested in going out with the person who calls? You want to turn the caller down gently, and yet you want to close the door to future calls as well.
The best way to do this, say Barbara and Scott, is to say something like "I'm kind of involved with somebody else right now" or "I've just gone back to my old boyfriend." This way, the caller doesn't see it as a rejection of him or her personally, but just that you happen to be committed to someone and unavailable to anyone else. Few people will take offense to this kind of a gentle turning-down.
How To Ask A Woman Out On A Date
There are good ways and bad ways to ask a single girl out. The bad way to ask a girl out is, "Would you like to go out with me?"
By saying this:
You set yourself up for rejection. She might say no.
You imply that she would be doing you a favor by going out with you.
You imply a formal date.
You are making a move on her. The pressure is on her.
If she says "no," you are never sure whether to ask her again for another time. Was it, "No, I don't want to go out with you," or "No, I want to go out with you but I'm busy that night."
You literally sound like a junior high kid asking a girl out on his first date.
The right way to ask a single girl out is, "Let's get together and do something sometime."
Memorize these words. By saying this, you give an impression of a casual meeting. No big deal. Friends getting to know each other. Not a formal date. If you say this, her response will let you know whether she wants to date you or not.
If she is interested, she will respond in the positive, but also her tone will be positive. The expression on her face will be positive. She may even lead the conversation to making a specific time to do something.
If you do get a positive response, you can either pursue the conversation and arrange to meet on a casual date or leave it until the next time you meet. You know she wants to get together and she will be waiting, now that you have teased her with talk of a date but offered no specific plans. You are being elusive and playing hard to get. Her anticipation works in your favor.
If she does not want to go out with you, her verbal response may be "no" or it may even be "yes" to save your feelings, but her tone, her facial expression, and her desire to drop the subject will let you know she is not interested. Don't pursue it further.
The beauty of this exact phrase is:
You are not set up for rejection. After all, you have not really asked her out. You've made a statement.
You are throwing out an offer. The implication is that you are doing her a favor. She is not doing you a favor by going out with you.
It implies a casual get-together to get to know each other, not a formal date.
You know for sure whether she wants to date you or not.
You aren't asking her. You are making a statement which says something about you. You are the type of person that likes to do things with friends, and of course she would like to participate. After all, there is no pressure. You are a confident, friendly, fun-loving person who is doing things.
Now reread that phrase.
"Let's get together and do something sometime."
See how much better it is than asking a question that may get you a wrong answer?
Ideas For Your First Date
· Go out for dinner then a movie. Having dinner together lets you get to know them better while watching the movie together provides the perfect atmosphere to just get used to them without having to talk too much.
· Go out to eat, sit and talk and give a small kiss goodnight.
· Have a picnic at a lake under the moonlight.
· Walk along the beach at night.
· Have dinner, watch a movie and end the night by playing video games at a local arcade together.
· Holding hands while walking in the park, getting to know each other.
· Go out to eat, watch a movie, have a moonlight walk on the beach ending the evening with the perfect kiss.
· Go out to dinner then spend time together at a coffee shop getting to know each other.
· Getting to know each other in the back of a truck on a back road under a starry sky.
· Laying by the fireplace with romantic music and candlelight getting to know each other.
· Go out dancing together.
· Have a candlelight dinner, dance under the stars followed by a romantic stroll.
Top 10 Places To Take Single Women On A First Date
If you really want to impress single women on a first date and make her fall for you, take her on a unique date she will never forget.
By being unique and creative, you'll stand out among the other guys she's dated and she will want to be with you again and again.
Just keep taking a single woman you're attracted to on one fun and creative date after another and she's bound to fall for you and want to make mad passionate love to you.
Here's a gold mine of creative dating ideas for taking women on a first date that will make a lasting impression make them crave to be with you:
Amusement Parks
This really makes for a fun date, especially if you both enjoy thrill-seeking rides such as roller coasters, etc. Also, don't forget to try and win her a teddy bear or other keepsake.
Dinner at Your Place
One of my favorite things to do is to invite a date over for a candlelight steak dinner and champagne. I do all the cooking and wait on my date hand and foot. I really make my date feel special. So, if you really want to make someone feel special and have a romantic evening, do this for a very special date.
Dinner Theater
There's nothing like good entertainment while you're eating. Your date will really be impressed and this is one of my top choices to take a date to.
Kite Flying
Stop by any toy store and pick up a kite and go on a kite date. Head for your local park, beach, or any wide open space. Kites are not just for kids. It's a fun experience for all ages and it's kind of romantic. So, get your date and go fly a kite.
Moonlight Strolls
When there's a full moon and clear skies, head for any lake or seashore. It's so romantic to take your shoes off and wade along the shore with the full moon gleaming on the water.
Romantic Restaurants
If you really want to make a good impression on your date, take her to a cozy and romantic restaurant. It's even better if they have a piano bar or live entertainment or soft music, dim lighting, roaring fireplaces, scenic views while you're eating, etc. So, spice up your love-life or impress a date by going to a romantic restaurant.
Theater (Live)
Most larger towns offer live theater performances that can be just as good as a Broadway play in New York City. Attending live theater on a date ranks at the top of the list for things to do on a date in my opinion.
Zoo
A popular and enjoyable way to spend the day on a date.
Picnics
This is tops on my list for first dates. Just bring a bottle of wine, cheese and crackers, or even better just pick up some fried chicken and potato salad. Don't forget the blanket and radio!
Cruises
If there are any cruises in your area (riverboat, dinner cruises, yacht cruises, gambling cruises, sunset cruises, or just any kind of cruise) don't pass up this opportunity for one of the best ways to impress single women on a first date.
Etiquette Of Dating
Etiquette is a voluminous subject. There are many good books on etiquette, as well as the etiquette of dating in specific. A few pointers are in order here, however.
The rules of etiquette in dating have changed somewhat in recent years. However, since the male usually still does the driving, he should open the car door for his date. This is a little nicety that contributes much to the overall atmosphere during the date. When the two arrive at their destination, he should open the door for his date again.
When the evening is over, the man should see the lady to the door. It is not enough to simply drive up to her house and open the car door for her. He should walk her up to the door of her home and see that she is safely inside before he leaves. This gives the lady the feeling of being protected.
Further, the man should hold open the doors of restaurants and other establishments for the lady as well as help her with her chair when she is seated, unless she shows a desire to do these things for herself.
"Should I kiss on the first date?" You didn't think I would skip over this question, did you? The answer is no. The most mistaken idea among young people is that a goodnight kiss is mandatory. When reduced to such a common level, the kiss loses all depth of meaning. The guy is requesting a privilege he has not earned. The lady is indicating that her kisses are not worth much. The kiss should be an indication of a special bond between two people.
When is a kiss appropriate? Not sooner than the second date, maybe later. It will mean so much more if it is not given out too freely. Am I old-fashioned on this subject? Maybe so. But maybe a little "old-fashionedness" is a good thing now and then.
How does a guy know when to kiss a girl good night? He can tell by how much affection she has shown during a dating relationship. She has liked holding hands, she sat a bit closer, she put her head on his shoulder, she lingers at the door trying to think of something to say...then she is receptive to a kiss. There is a feeling in the air that a kiss would be welcome.
Another question is whether it is it proper to have more than one boyfriend or girlfriend at the same time. As far as the rules of etiquette go, it is perfectly acceptable to have more than one dating partner.
However, as far as the laws of human nature go, little jealousies are bound to spring up if one dating partner believes that the other is not really committed to him or her.
Generally, people date several different people concurrently until they find one person with whom they feel they are truly compatible. After that, they usually devote themselves to that one relationship, unless, of course, that relationship breaks up, at which point they start the whole process over again).