Areas of Pastoral Counseling

Pastoral Counseling

Bro. Gary Spaeth

Areas of Pastoral Counseling

• ______/Family

– Relationship, Sexual Problems, Divorce

– Children, Discipline, In-laws

– Grief/Death

– Illnesses

• Doctrinal

– Beliefs, Assurance of Salvation, ______

• ______Bitterness, Materialism, Lying, Anxiety, Pride

• Other

– Decisions

– ______

– Financial

Power and Victory through Christ

• 2 Peter 1:3 According as his divine power hath given unto us all things that pertain unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and virtue:

Counseling text book - ______

• 2 Timothy 3:16-17

– 16All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:
17That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works.

Three Biblical words describing counseling

• ______– οίκοδομή - to build up, help grow

– Ephesians 4:12 – “for the edifying of the body of Christ”

– Romans 14:19 - “one may edify another”

• ______-παρακαλέω - to come along side of, to aid, help, to encourage

– Hebrews 3:13 – “exhort one another daily”

– Hebrews 10:25 – “exhorting one another”

• ______– παρακαλέω – to comfort

– 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 – “that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble”

– 1 Thessalonians 4:18 – “comfort one another with these words”

• ______– νουθετέω - to warn, to express disapproval

– Acts 20:31 – “I ceased not to warn every one night and day with tears”

– Romans 15:14 – “able also to admonish one another”

– Colossians 3:16 - “teaching and admonishing one another”

Biblical Counseling

• Edifying – ______

• Exhorting - ______

• Comforting - ______

• Admonishing - ______

• 2 Timothy 4:2 (KJV) Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine.

Counseling Help - The Holy Spirit, the ______

• A Divine Helper

• John 14:16 – “he shall give you another Comforter”

• A ______to the Truth

• John 14:26 – “he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance”

True spiritual growth is accomplished by the Holy Spirit using the ______of God’s word.

• Christian Counseling is carried on in harmony with the sanctifying work of the Holy Spirit.

– John 14:16, Rom. 8:13

• The Holy Spirit fills us, guides us, and produces spiritual ______.

– Eph. 5:18, Rom. 8:14, Galatians 5:22-24

• But when the Spirit is ______in a Believer's life, the works or fruit of the flesh are more evident.

– Galatians 5:19-21

The role of the pastor

Definition of Pastoral Counseling

Pastoral counseling is about ______, as Christ has loved us.

______them grow spiritually.
______them through difficult times.
______them to walk in the ways of the Lord.

The role of the pastor

• Acts 20:28 Take heed therefore unto yourselves, and to all the flock, over the which the Holy Ghost hath made you overseers, to feed the church of God, which he hath purchased with his own blood.

Recognition of the Pastor – Acts 20:28

• Pastor is called by God

– Holy Ghost hath made you ______

• Pastor is to care for God’s flock

– He hath purchased with His own blood

Role of the pastor – Acts 20:28

• Take ______ (προσέχω)

– Attend to, guard, watch over

• Yourself

• All the flock

• Overseers (ἐπίσκοπος) ______

– to direct people to godliness

– to care for then needs of the people

• ______ (ποιμαίνω)

– shepherd

– to provide for needs

Application: Role of the pastorActs 20:28

• Heeding – ______your flock

– Are they in Church?

– How is the family situation?

– Who or what is influencing them?

• Leading– ______your flock

– Correct wrong doctrine or behavior

– Acknowledge right behavior

• Feeding – ______your flock

– Doctrines of God

– Dangers of the world

Jesus describes himself as a shepherd

• John 10:14 I am the good shepherd, and ______my sheep, and am known of mine.

• John 10:11 I am the good shepherd: the good shepherd giveth his ______for the sheep.

• Psalms 23

• “The people need us. They need love, our prayers, our friendship, our encouragement, our understanding, our sympathy, our counsel”.

• “…everyone of us will desperately need the presence and prayers of the preacher. He is God’s man to show the right way or to give us strength to follow what we ought to do.” W. A. Criswell

Seven Rules of the Pastor-Counselor

The pastor ought to keep confidential conversations ______.
He is to be a good ______
He is to bring the spirit of ______to know and do the will of God.
He is not to be afraid to say you don’t know what to do. Be willing to ______to another.

He has ______limitations to enter fully into the troubling problem.
He will not allow a woman to recount the ______of their lives.
Make sure the session end ______, Christward and Heavenward. Let it never end in ______.

W.A. Criswell

• Many believers, saved from the penalty of sin, need deliverance from the ______of sin as well.

• The desire to know the “inside story” lurks in most hearts. Beware that you aren’t lured into counseling by an impure desire to hear the ______of someone’s soul.

C. Sumner Wemp

Key to Pastoral Counseling

• ______

– 1 John 4:7 Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.
1 Corinthians 13

lovest thou me more than these?

• In John 21:15-17, Jesus ______Peters love for him.

• One who loves Jesus supremely will love those entrusted into his charge more, not less.

Identify your ______/Mote

• Matthew 7:3-5 (KJV) 3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? 4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? 5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye.

The Role of the Church

• The Role of the Church in Counseling

• God instituted the Local New Testament Church as the mechanism to provide ______and ______to its members.

– Romans 14:19

• “Let us … ______another”

– Romans 15:1

• “We … ought to ______the infirmities of the weak”

– Romans 15:14

• “ye also …. able also to ______one another”

The Goal of Pastoral Counseling

Goal of Biblical Counseling

• To direct the person to become more like Christ in their ______and ______.

– Romans 8:29 For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.

– Luke 6:40 The disciple is not above his master: but every one that is perfect shall be as his master.

The Basic Cause of Problems with Christians

• Carnality - Romans 8:5-6

– The Christian whose mind is set on the things of the ______or what the sinful ______desires.

1 Corinthians 3:3

For ye are yet carnal: for whereas there is among you envying, and strife, and divisions, are ye not carnal, and walk as men?

Many Christians Turn Outside The Church For Help

• Why does this happen?

– Not ______in Scriptures ability to help

– Afraid to share ______with those inside the church

– Not looking for answer just someone to talk to or to ______their behavior.

– Conditioned to think counseling should be left to trained ______.

• Many people today do not see anything wrong with ______modern psychology and the Bible, but as we will see, there is ______ mixing of the two, each opposes the other.

– 1 Corinthians 3:19 For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God. For it is written, He taketh the wise in their own craftiness.

Basic Ideas of Modern Psychology

• Human nature is basically ______.

• People have the ______to their problems inside them.

• The ______to understanding and correcting a person’s attitudes and actions lies somewhere in that person’s ______.

• Individuals’ problems are the result of what ______has done to them.

• Human problems can be purely ______in nature—unrelated to any spiritual or physical condition.

• Deep-seated problems can be solved only by ______counselors using therapy.

• Scripture, prayer, and the Holy Spirit are ______and ______resources for solving certain types of problems.

Points to consider

• ______problems require medical help.

• Some depression may be a result of a ______problem.

• While rare, it may be ______for one to need to turn to treatments outside of the church.

• ______should be used when outside therapy or medical treatment is used to lessen trauma.

– alcoholic, drug addicted, learning disabled, traumatized by rape, incest, or severe battering

BIBLICAL COUNSELING

Who is Man? / What is Man’s Problem? / Who Brings About Changes? / What is the Goal?
______being
Man, by nature, is sinful and prone to sinful thoughts and choices
Man is incapable of pleasing God apart from ______in God’s revealed truth / Organic (______)
Not handling the pressures of life in a Godly manner (______)
Lack of practical information
Lack of spiritual ______or knowledge / The ______, using God’s Word
Divine Knowledge
All Christians to some degree
Spiritually mature Christians who have been ______by God with gifts that allow them to become skillful counselors and effective servants of the local church. / ______
Live a life pleasing to God
To understand and live the Biblical principles of life
Restoration to ______

Foundations (Presuppositions) of Psychology Compared With the Bible

Man is ______, though he dysfunctions / Man is ______, a rebel at heart, depraved (Jer. 17:9, Rom. 3:23)
Man’s problems are primarily due to ______by others / Man’s problems are primarily due to his ______ (desire to control one’s own life rather than to submit to God) and sinning against others and God.
To overcome a problem he must explore his ______. Focus is placed on the counselee, his suffering, and his past (self-consuming) / To overcome a problem involving sin, man must ______immediately. Focus is on the God of healing, His power, and the believer’s glorious future (Rom. 6:13-22)
To grow, man must search into his ______resources / To grow, man must ______completely on God and the Source of all wisdom, God’s Word. Man has no resources in himself (Prov. 3:5-7)
Social problems are due to lack of ______, ignorance, or self-esteem. Man must liberate self, ______self, elevate self, and release self. / Social problems are due to the ______nature of man, his wrong attitudes, emotions, thoughts. (James 4:1-3) man must ______self and please God.
If addicted, man can not be ______. / A Christian can ______sin and have victory through faith in Christ (I Cor. 6:11)
Each person’s problems and behavior patterns are ______. / We are all basically the same, prone to the same behavior ______, sins, and ______to error (I Cor. 10:13)
Emphasis is on ______: “people are hurting” / Emphasis is on God’s ______: “people are lost.” (John 10:10)
Man is bound together in unity by his particular ______, addiction, or need. / Christians are bound together in unity by the ______and faith in Christ (Phil. 1:27)
Human problems can be purely ______in nature – unrelated to any spiritual or physical condition. / Man’s spirit, soul, and emotions are ______and can not be separated. Man cannot successfully deal with emotions without also dealing with his ______(Gal. 5:14-22;
John 6:63)

• Psalms 119:9 (KJV) Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word.

• Psalms 119:24 (KJV) Thy testimonies also are my delight and my counsellors.

The Practice of Counseling

Types of Counseling

• ______counseling – Does not require immediate action

– Pre-marital

– ______

– Help with decision

• ______counseling – Requires ______action

– Bereavement

– Comfort and support through difficulty

– ______Emergency

– Natural Disaster

– ______

– Termination of employment

– Incarceration

– ______conflicts

• When the situation becomes so painful that a couple can’t see the marriage continuing—that’s a crisis.”

Berkley, J. D.

Non-Crisis Counseling

Pre-marital counseling

• Love is blind – ______is an eye-opener

Purpose of Pre-marital Counseling

• Help prepare the couple for marriage.

– Explain the Biblical ______for marriage.

• Divorce is not an option (Mal. 2:16, Matt. 19:4-6)

• Mutual love for each other (Eph. 5:22-30)

– Identify potential ______point in the couple.

• Finances

• ______differences

• Personality differences

• ______differences

First meeting

• As soon and you learn couple is considering marriage.

– Decide if ______will marry the couple.

• Spiritual status

• Prior marital status

– Discuss relationship ______

– ______on marriage

– Discuss dates and location

Subsequent meetings

Help couple to get to know one another better

• Explain ______as found in Scriptures (1 Cor. 13)

• ______marriage –Leave and Cleave (Gen. 2:24)

• Priority of ______in the relationship (Matt. 6:33)

• Helpful and hurtful ______ (Eph. 4:29)

• Dealing with ______ (James 4:1)

• ______husband/Godly wife (Eph. 5, Col. 3)

Areas of Pastoral Counseling