3170 A Fall 07. In Class Assignment Developing Compassion

Care for Well Being / Distress/Need Sensitivity / Sympathy / Distress Tolerance
Adds to this capacity? / Adds to this capacity? / Adds to this capacity? / Adds to this capacity?
-show respect
-teaching children at an early age to care for others
-love yourself and love others
-education
-respect for others
-look at everyone as equals
- / -be aware of people around you
-establish trust
-understand diversity
-practice eye contact
-being calm
-being present in the moment
-reflect own interest
-no generalizing / -being in a positive mood
-good listener
-proactive
-temperament/personality factors
-how well you know the person / -exercise
-yoga
-eat right
-social support
-good interpersonal skills
-contextual organization
-time management skills
-clarity in evaluating the situation
Drains this capacity? / Drains this capacity? / Drains this capacity? / Drains this capacity?
-ignorance
-ethnocentrism
-stereotyping
-inferiority/superiority complex
- / -stereotyping
-being depressed
-mental instability
-being judgmental
-lack of experience
-fear
-lack of time management
-being overwhelmed
-being task oriented
-negative emotional state (depression)
-impatience / -negative mood
-individualistic attitude
-paternalistic
-overly sympathetic
-hostility / -getting overly involved/attached
-tired or overworked
-panicking
-being in a stressful or anxious mood
-being abrupt
-negative self-appraisal
-not asking for help when you need it
Empathy / Non-Judgment / Warmth
Adds to this capacity? / Adds to this capacity? / Adds to this capacity?
-Put yourself in the other person’s shoes’
-Good listening skills
-Don’t say “I know how you feel” / -education on other cultures
-drawing on past experiences
-traveling to see other cultures
-avoid judging others on superficial cues (looks/race/clothes)
-acknowledge that negative thoughts about others will stimulate negative thoughts from others around you / -calm body language
-smile
-focus on person
-open mindedness
-tone of voice warm/caring/gentle
-keep an open mind
-reaffirm you are paying attention
-encourage them to move on from grief but also let them know it’s ok to grieve
-show them that on same level you can relate to their pain
-let them express themselves at their own pace
-respect their need for privacy
-offer help with daily chores
Drains this capacity? / Drains this capacity? / Drains this capacity?
-becoming over involved
-taking on the other person’s burdens
-being tired or distracted
-trying to find solutions all the time / -fundamental attribution theory
-stereotyping
-racial beliefs
-low self-esteem
-lack of insight
-cultural/language barriers
-out-group bias
-ethnocentrism
-media / -being self-centered
-not listening
-narrow-mindedness
-cold or monotone voice
-no eye contact
-being abrupt or curt