Boyfriends and Girlfriends

There are many different kinds of friends. It is nice to have lots of friends.

Friends are people that talk together and play games. Friends are kind to each other. They say “Hi” to each other and they like to spend times together.

Girls can have friends that are girls.

And, girls can have friends that are boys.

A friend that is a boy is someone to talk to and play games with. Having a friend that is a boy, does not mean that he is your “boyfriend”.

Sometimes when a girl has been friends with a boy for a long time, she might want to have a special friendship with this boy. This happens after they have spent a lot of time talking and getting to know each other. Sometimes the boy also wants to have a special friendship. He might ask the girl to be his special girlfriend. This is something that happens quietly and privately.

It is not appropriate to ask boys that you do not know very well to be your boyfriend. It is better to talk about other things for awhile to get to know each other better. You can talk about things you like to do or you can talk about what you are doing in school that day. You can even talk about favorite TV shows or movies.

There are lots of things to talk about. It takes a long time to get to know someone before you talk about being boyfriend and girlfriend.

Sometimes teenage girls are very worried about whether or not they have a boyfriend. If you need to talk to someone about these worries, it is best to talk to an adult in private. “In Private” means that no one else can hear you except for the adult. There are some adults that you can ask to talk about something private. You can talk to your teachers or your parents. If you need to talk to someone at school about this, you can say,

“Can I talk to you privately?” You can use your “Let’s talk” card.

You can do this one time each day. Your teacher or other adult will let you know what time would be appropriate for a private conversation.

So remember,

  1. It is great to have friends that are boys and friends that are girls.
  2. Friends spend time talking about many things.
  3. It is inappropriate to talk about having a boyfriend with someone that you don’t know very well.
  4. If you are worried or have questions about having a boyfriend, you can talk privately to a parent or a teacher.
  5. You can ask for a private conversation one time each day at school. You can give your teacher the “Let’s talk” card and she will let you know when you can have a private talk.