The Seven Keys
The following viewpoints and keys may be helpful for pursuing meaningful
successful relationships, career, and have dreams come true. Use the
keys daily, as often as seeking an open door.
The First Key
Shine a light upon basic beliefsyou have beliefs about yourself, others, and the world. Are there any which are distorted, unhealthy, or false? If so, are you willing to confront and discard them.
What about emotions, beliefs, and expectations?
Such feelings as anger, anxiety, and rejection and other emotions can easily distort how you perceive yourself, how you perceive others, how you perceive the world, and the choices you make.
Emotions and feeling may be perplexing, explosive, and mislabeled.
Sadness, lethargy, and withdrawal may be mislabeled as depression.
Excitement, anticipation, and impatience may be mislabeled as anxiety.
Most people feel anger, and even rage, sometimes. However, no one has the absolute right or justification to act out every time they feel them.
Underneath most anger are hurt, disappointment, and unmet expectations.
The basic fact is that most feelings are temporary. They come and go.
The Second Key
Prohibit feelings, especially intense feelings, impulsively dictate your decisions and actions. Identifying consequences unlocks making wise and healthy decisions.
Wanting acceptance and caving into peer pressures may be powerful forces for making choices. Invent ways for combating peer pressure.
The Third Key
What about consuming alcohol and marijuana?
Some people believe that ingesting substances are the exclusive means and antidote for remedying boredom, chilling with friends, and feeling energetic.They believe that a party is not a party unless marijuana and alcohol are in the house.
Some people discover that consuming alcohol and marijuana merely disguises shyness, derails uncomfortable feelings, and dodges idleness.
Consuming substances may diminish motivation, focus, and productivity. Apathy, mediocrity, and stagnation may prevail.
Find healthy and substance-free ways for having fun, meeting social needs, and feeling calm.
The Fourth Key
Dream big. Dreams can come true ifyou work to attain them one step and one breath at a time.
The Fifth Key
Discover and live with meaning, passion, and courage: then authentic joy and magic appears. Take away the power of frustrations and disappointments. They too are temporary.
The Sixth Key
Unlock the passion for yourself, others, and the world.
The Seventh Key
Practice utmost compassion, forgiveness, and respect for yourself. In doing so, practicing them with others is simple.
Question: Do you believe in magic?
Answer: You are the magic.
David B. Wolfe, Ph.D.
December 2012