Examples of Expectations for Home Routines 1

TRANSLATING SCHOOL EXPECTATIONS INTO HOME ROUTINES

When talking to parents about your school expectations, it can be very helpful to provide examples of how your expectations translate into home routines. The following provides examples of the most common expectations for home routines.

BE RESPECTFUL: You are respectful when you show consideration for how your words and actions will affect other people. When you are respectful youvalue each other’s point of view, even if you disagree. When you are respectful, you are polite and kind and treat each other with dignity.
EXAMPLES of Being Respectful at Home / NON EXAMPLES
  • Using a quiet voice
  • Allowing siblings to work quietly
  • Taking turns watching preferred TV/movies
  • Sharing the bathroom
  • Asking before taking others’ belongings
  • Saying thank you and please
  • Taking turns talking during meal time
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  • Using a loud and shouting voice
  • Interrupting siblings when they are working
  • Holding onto the remote and refusing to take turns
  • Staying in the bathroom and refusing to share it
  • Taking others’ belongings without asking
  • Ignoring saying please and thank you to others

BE KIND: When you are kind you use nice words and are helpful to others.
EXAMPLES of Being Kind at Home / NON EXAMPLES
  • Say I’m sorry
  • Play fair
  • Show concern
  • Use nice words (like giving a compliment)
  • Offer to help
  • Accept people’s differences
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  • Call people names
  • Say mean words like “shut up” or “you’re stupid”
  • Make fun or teasing other people
  • Ignore when someone is talking to you
  • Use a mean tone of voice
  • Walk away when someone needs your help

BE RESPONSIBLE: You are responsible when you make good decisions; do the right thing whether or not someone tells us; you answer for your words and actions; and you accept the consequence when you have done something wrong. When you are responsible other people can depend on us.
EXAMPLES of Being Responsible at Home / NON EXAMPLES
  • Making the bed
  • Putting clothes in the hamper
  • Before leaving, check you have lunch and ID
  • Staying within your phone minutes
  • Puttingelectronics in a safe place
  • Giving school notices to adult(s)
  • Putting finished homework in backpack
  • Cleaning up your mess after eating
  • Offering to help with chores
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  • Leaving the bed unmade
  • Leaving clothes around your room/house
  • Leaving the house without your lunch and ID
  • Exceeding your phone minutes
  • Putting electronics in places they can be damaged
  • Leaving school notices in your backpack
  • Leaving finished homework around the house
  • Leaving a mess after eating
  • Letting others do all of the chores

BE SAFE: You are safe when youuse words and actions that take care to avoid danger, harm or injury for yourself or others.
EXAMPLES of Being Safe at Home / NON EXAMPLES
  • Putting house keys in a secure place
  • Showing adult something that upsets you on Facebook or Twitter
  • Using microwave to heat up food when home alone
  • Holding knife and fork facing down when walking to the table
  • Carrying only what you can hold
  • Playing with sports equipment outside
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  • Putting house keys in places they can get lost
  • Keeping upsetting things on Facebook or Twitter to yourself
  • Using the stove or oven to heat up food when home alone
  • Holding knife and fork facing upright or outwards when walking to the table
  • Carrying more than you can hold
  • Playing with sports equipment inside

ACT with INTEGRITY: You act with integrity when you conduct yourselves with integrity, you are doing the ‘right thing” whether or not anyone is watching. You understand the difference between right and wrong, you think about how your words and actions will affect other people. When you conduct yourselves with integrity you have the courage to be honest and to tell the truth.
EXAMPLES of Acting with Integrity at Home / NON EXAMPLES
  • Telling the truth
  • Following the rules even when no one is watching
  • Asking for help from an adult when you are not sure what to do
  • Admitting to wrong-doing
  • Offering to correct your mistakes
  • Offering help to others
  • Counting to 5 before saying something
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  • Lying or misleading someone into thinking something that is not true
  • Leaving out important pieces of information because you may get in trouble
  • Blaming others
  • Breaking the rules because no one is watching
  • Letting others do tasks alone that you could help with
  • Letting others clean up/fix your mistakes
  • Saying whatever comes to your mind first

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