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CCN WEEKLY SOLUTIONS SERIES
THE WEEK OF FEBRUARY 1, 2010
Intro to Boundaries
Featuring
Dr. Henry Cloud
Psychologist
Best-selling co-author of Boundaries series,
Author, The Secret Things of God
and The One-Life Solution
Boundaries
The issue of boundaries recycles through life in a lot of ways
The price of not having boundaries becomes higher later in life
Definition: A boundary is a property line
The boundary defines “me” and “not me”
Trespassing
Your life: heart, mind, soul, and strength
We carry inside our lives hurts and toxic waste
from the hands of others because our fences
weren’t strong enough to keep them out
Ownership, responsibility, and freedom
Love only works in a context of freedom
In love, you set a limit
Boundaries set limits
• A limit on myself: what I will allow to happen to me
• A limit on exposure to the collateral damage from the other’s behavior
Taking charge of me and what affects me
Salt and light
Boundaries keep the good in and the bad out
A boundary is a fence, not a wall
We need to be able to open wide to people who are good
We need to say no to some people
What would your life be like if you had the boundaries of Psalm 101?
Boundaries are the structure of the love of God
The shape of love: Righteousness
The law of sowing and reaping
The person who doesn’t discipline, hates
Love requires people to do the righteousness of God
The presence of boundaries does two things:
• Setting a limit on our exposure to another’s problem
• Limiting the extent to which we’ll pay
for another’s problem
We rob each other of a good life when we don’t
have good boundaries and require the righteousness
that makes love work
Next week on Solutions:
“Pruning Your Life”
Resources
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
Solutions studio audience contact
Angee Hamrick
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