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6-point Method: Family Vacation
Time: 10 minutes theory. 15 minutes of exercise. 10 minutes for review. , A total of 30-35 minutes
Age Group / Level: high school, adult, medium and advanced
6-point problem solving, introduction
We all solve problems every day, and every individual has an approach to problem-solving that worksmost of the time. But the fact that we all get involved in conflicts that escalateto a destructive level clearly shows that our approach is not always sufficient. Many people are accustomed to think of conflict as a disagreement between two parties, but in fact most conflicts are often multi-party conflicts, and it is often in such situations that our approaches fail.
The following exercise demonstrates an approach which, with a little practice, can work well when there are multiple parties, and we want to maintain a good relationship between the parties.
Step by step, the procedure is as follows:
1) Identify needs: Let each party define and explain the problem from their point of view and identify their needs.
2) Redefine the problem by focusing on the needs that must be met.
3) Brainstorm different solutions. Write down all the solutions, without judging or evaluating at this point.
4) Evaluate the solutions. Which seems to take care of most needs? What kind of feelings does each party have for the different solutions, and can they identify why?
5) Agree on onesolution. Discuss each of the solutions that seem most promising. Can they be adapted to meet everyone's needs? Which meets the criteria best?
6) Follow-up. Check with all regularly over time to see how the deal works.
Exercise: Family Holiday
Divide the participants into groups of 5 or 6. Explain that the family are planning their vacation, and as always all have different ideas about what the ideal vacation consists of. Funding is limited. This can be treated as an opportunity to build relationships in the family!

Give out a copy of the following overview to each group, and ask them to use the 6-point method to agree on a solution.
Father: wants some luxury and wants to relax. For him there is no question of camping, caravan or cabin without water and electricity.
Mother: does not want to cook and wants a change in routine. She enjoys outdoor living, but also a little culture (concert, theatre, art exhibition).
15 year-old girl:Wants to take a girlfriend along, and do "cool" activities that her friend can enjoy too.
13 year old son:Wants an adventure holiday: rafting or canoe paddling or such.
8 year old son: Likes camping, fishing and hiking, but the main thing for him is that everyone is included.
Grandma (if there are 6 in the group): Likes being with family, but does not like being left with "babysitting" while the adults are out and enjoying themselves. Would enjoysome cultural activities.

De-briefing

Let each group present their solution. Discuss the pros and cons of the method. In what situations do the participants feel it would be most useful?